Are shoes a deal breaker?

[inmyshoos]

Lighthearted really....

Been talking to someone online. He's nice. Makes me laugh and we get on well. We've exchanged a few photos. He has completely opposite taste in footwear. The kinda things my teenage son might wear. Am I being hugely shallow

Yes! I have always felt this since I was a teenager. Absolute red line.

Only if they are filthy. Different taste in footwear wouldn't bother me. But stinky feet would!

No. That is so sad. It’s a pair of shoes.

Lol . If I went out on a date ,and he looked like Jason Statham , had the money of a Saudi prince , had the funniest , kindest personality ever , but turned up wearing sandals with socks ...... I’d have to make my excuses and flee. Lmao , so yeah ,footwear matters

I don't think of myself as shallow but this is something that has put me off a couple of men before. I can't help it!

They really are. It matters a lot to me that DH dresses like an adult. More than can he said for one of my exes.

Trust your gut.

It is definately shallow, do you know how rare genuine nice men are? they are usually married or gay.. they are like gold dust, you wouldnt be dating his shoes, you would be dating him.. his shoes come off... lol id date a man with big red clown shoes if he was different to the rest of the a**holes ive met in life and a lovely person and company, he might make you happy?

I have been with DP for 18yrs. His shoe taste was dubious in the early years. Looking back my style was fairly questionable too, though at the time I didn’t think that.
You are being teenager level shallow. Would you tell him that you couldn’t go out with him as despite him being really lovely you don’t like his shoes? You would sound a knob saying that.

I know what you mean but if I was judged for all the shoes I'd worn over the years (think psychedelic wedges in the 90's) I'd be single forever.

Make a joke of his shoes and say you'll take him shopping for shoes after lockdown.

Not a deal breaker, and he may have a dozen other shoes you approve of

Someone I dated many, many moons ago had a pair of denim shoes. 😬

I have no opinion on mens shoe style other than sandals with socks. Crocs on grown men too. Ugh.

Ime not something that can't be rectified.... When dh moved in I simply refused to allow entry to his Jesus sandals. However much he protested that they had cost a lot of money.
You were robbed dear now bin the bloody things...

He was 31 ffs!!

Of course not - it's just shoes!
Imagine if the roles were reversed and he said he was having second thoughts about you because he wasn't keen on your shoes 😂

Many moons ago I met a man in work who I got on very well with. He was a lovely man who outside of work wore canvas shoes. I know this as I stayed at his one time and saw a few pairs of them in his house. I remember thinking they were very 'safe and stable' shoes, which pretty much summed up his personality.

I was still a wild child in my late 20s and I knew we wouldn't work out so never pursued anything. Its the only time I've ever really noted a man's shoes.

Partner doesn't wear canvas shoes and if he did wear them I'd be surprised as they wouldn't suit his personality or style at all

Wouldn't bother me. I'd like that he was young at heart.

No they shouldn’t be a dealbreaker.

I went on a date with someone wearing cowboy boots which he’d tucked his jeans into. I felt my legs slam shut when I saw them. On reflection I shouldn’t have been so shallow but it was instinctive 🤣.

I wouldn't be able to judge anyway. I wear teenage footwear too. Because it's comfy

Yes 100%. I always notice myself looking at peoples shoes without actually realising I do it.

Yes it matters, if something turns you off someone you are in early stages of dating that is a sign you’re not attracted to them.

To people who say this is shallow, dating is not charity. I don’t pity date anymore (been there, leads very quickly to “the ick” )

I went on a date with someone wearing cowboy boots which he’d tucked his jeans into.

I would have looked for the nearest escape route.

Ooh love a trainer.

I shagged a man for 18 months who wore karrimor walking shoes. On dates.

It was worth looking past that though

Having said that if you fall in deep love it will happen regardless of that awful favourite t shirt of his. Love is love. Attraction is different. The shoes are a turn off & that’s ok !

My ex wore boat shoes. I should have paid more attention to his shoes. They would have saved me a lot of heartache.

Does he have cartoon socks as well?