Hi
Been in a 3 year relationship. In the last year it's been a nightmare to be honest. We moved into a new home together. In his name not mine due to council rules they say you dont know someone until you actually live with them.......from day one from when we moved in its gone down hill...his temper . Moods. Anger and sulking moods..its hard to explain to be honest..any slight thing that he dont like sets him off into like a mood...frustrated mood..he has trashed the place twice now ..badly...throwning my belonging down the stairs everything I own telling me his house his rules telling me if I stop pushing his buttons it all be ok...etc etc..blaming me for his actions....i dont know what buttons I push ? next day he is ok like nothing major had happened..as usual I put it all back and carry on....if he is frustrated he calls me every name going and alot of accusations towards me...like who I am I sleeping with etc etc something so simple like when I spilt the sugar pot by accident and you would of thought it was the end of the world for him..then he started saying I dont respect his house what a mess etc etc I may want to live in a hole but he dont etc ..it was a sugar pot....it made me feel like crap and gulity...or if I say somthing wrong that he dont like sets him off. In the end I started to read..so when he is in one of these moods I kept quiet to let him deal with it ...
Month or so ago he went into another temper rage it resulted in me leaving not by my choice ! he stated it's his house his rules etc etc he fed up with my attitude..hand on heart I did nothing that day...
Any way since then he has texted me everyday or left voice mails saying he is stressed and He will get help go counselling etc he been crying down the phone..
He said he wants me home..then gives me a time to be back by then says If I dont turn up forget it..for example 2pm tomorrow or dont bother....next minute he saying he loves me and missed me and wants me....
Now if I dont reply straight away to these texts his texts hey become hostile saying why is he bothering he wasted 3 years who am I shagging who am I with hope hes worth it..etc etc..then next minute I should go home as he misses me...its split personality....
When we chatted nicely by text when he is nice it's lovely sounded like the old him...then next minute he goes into this uncomfortable sexual.mode....then if I dont reply or say i like what he is saying or if i dont say how nice the thought of it is or say to him what I want to do to him then it gets hostile again..very hostile ..he starts saying I dont want him i am not interested in him.. Hes not good enough..why should he bother..he makes me feel bad..then guilty...its really uncomfortable....and its constant.
There has been times it's been great...fell in love with him very quickly..first two years where brilliant went everywhere shared hobbies then it all stopped and changed when we got this house.. .do you think he would change....I have given him so many chances..I lost count how many I have given..do I give him another.....God I am so confused I dont know what to do next.....
I just wanted a nice trustworthy loving happy relationship....all I ever have done is cry...
Do I.miss him or miss being with someone