Would you be annoyed if he ignores your texts but on social media?

[drrrt]

Been on off seeing him a year.
He's a bit of a player.
He's turned his ticks off on WhatsApp so you can't see when he has read a message.
He also has he's last seen off.
I sent him a text 2 hours ago then another a hour ago.
He has ignored them.
Yet he's been online on WhatsApp (for the last two hours on and off all the time)
He's been on Facebook,messenger and Instagram.
I just think it's so rude.
Would you be annoyed ?
When he texts would you reply?
Or give him the same back

[Hippydoodledoo8]

Don’t waste your time checking on him. If you even feel the need to, get rid.

[Oxfordnono12]

You're right in what you are thinking.


Simple.. You can get annoyed but he's not bothered..

[backseatcookers]

There is nothing lonelier than being in a shit relationship, I promise.

Someone like him is not the route to happiness, he is a derailment.

I'm sorry you have had such a tough time family wise, that's awful.

Lean on your friends I'm sure they won't mind. And is there something you're really into that you can use to occupy you during lockdown?

Box sets? YouTube videos of whatever you're into? Order something online to treat yourself to and look forward to?

Once lockdown is over if you're feeling this way then I would look into some counselling, if it's too expensive then get on the waiting list for some therapy via your doctor.

Otherwise you're at risk of continuing self destructive behaviour in relationships and that would mean you'd miss out on meeting someone really lovely you could have a loving relationship with.

[Aussiebean]

If your goal is to be happy with someone, ask yourself if you are happy with him?

While you keep trying with him you aren’t finding someone to actually be happy with someone.

[Damnmeifyouwish]

Are you me? Oh this resonates.

Over a decade having an on off thing with a man like this. From his late 20s to 40s now. He can’t do relationships. He can’t do emotional intelligence and I actually think he’s Aspergers. Yet on some days there is this amazing carnival of a difference and it’s so lush it’s what keeps me hooked.

Except I’ve seen him for who he really is recently.

[Whataloadofshite]

Dump him.

[Turboshift]

OP there is no longevity in this relationship and it will never end happily for you. He is incapable of giving you the relationship you want. He doesn't respect you and you dont trust him. Stop torturing yourself and block him from your life. Stay single for a while and work on your self esteem and confidence before dating again. Try new hobbies to meet people and make friends to help with loneliness. Good luck.

[crystalize]

Sorry you are going through a tough time. It sounds like your self worth and esteem are in tatters. Rather than making him your focus, maybe start focussing on YOU. It seems you have a lot of time on your hands if you're obsessively checking his online status. Give that time to you.

Work at valuing yourself and raising your self esteem, read online articles about Toxic and dysfunctional relationships and books about it Some I can think of are,
Women Who love too much
Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
Lundy Bancroft - Why Does he do that (to understand abusive relationships)

It's worth investing in yourself so you grow emotionally, enabling you to have more healthy relationships in the future.

[BertiesLanding]

Sweetheart, you need therapy.