Would you be annoyed if he ignores your texts but on social media?

[drrrt]

Been on off seeing him a year.
He's a bit of a player.
He's turned his ticks off on WhatsApp so you can't see when he has read a message.
He also has he's last seen off.
I sent him a text 2 hours ago then another a hour ago.
He has ignored them.
Yet he's been online on WhatsApp (for the last two hours on and off all the time)
He's been on Facebook,messenger and Instagram.
I just think it's so rude.
Would you be annoyed ?
When he texts would you reply?
Or give him the same back

You said "hope I'm not annoying you?" Basically grovelling to him?

You're not listening to the advice here are you?

You're not ready to listen are you?

I didn't know how else to ask him without appearing rude

You are marching yourself towards heartbreak deliberately.

There is complete logic in his push/pull behaviour. He does it so you're insecure and confused. So you chase after him. So you're always available tp him. So you're afraid to question his behaviour. So you allow him to treat you like shite because you don't want to lose the half of him that's nice to you. It's getting him exactly what he wants. He gets to treat you like a toy, and the ego boast of a woman desperate to keep him. He gets to click his fingers when he feels like it, and you jump. How flattered he must feel. How much a lot a big man player he must feel. How much of a stud!

However, there is no logic in your behaviour. You are aware enough to know this is a shite relationship, and that it's doing you harm. You know he's playing you. You know he's treating you badly. You know it's trashing your self esteem. But you stay clinging on to the scraps he throws your way. That's what's not logical.

Send 1 last text "cool"

THEN DO NOT EVER TEXT HIM AGAIN. HE IS NOT INTO YOU.

Really it's that simple. He wouldn't be too busy if he was crazy after you would he?

You are wasting your time here, sorry. Delete and block him on everything

Ask him what?

What do you need to ask him?

The person imoacting your self esteem, is you. If you had walked away he couldn't do this to you.

He is responsible for being a shit. But you are responsible for allowing it.

@drrrt
That is just rude. Apart from this how are things with him?
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He's using you, and you need to get rid of him.

LTB!
If you're obsessively checking WhatsApp to see when he was last on there, that speaks volumes about your confidence in the relationship generally. I've been there!

He holds all the power and you're grovelling to him for crumbs of attention.

Ditch him. Delete any sign of him from your contacts and social media, photos, everything.. so you have no means of contacting him again. Then keep yourself busy with hobbies and friends to distract yourself until your heart heals. In a month you'll realise what a knob he is.

It's massive mind games with him.
He will have a week where he texts all the time and replies within 5 mins.
Then back to this
It's exhausting
If he cared he would make time for me
It's simple

Are you actually listening to the advice you're being given?
He's not interested in you. That's not going to change. You're allowing him to treat you like dirt.

So why are you bothering with him?

How wonderfully refreshing - someone that is actually better in real life than they make out by text! I would love that, it would make me like him even more!

But anyway OP if it's a problem for you, it's easily communicated. ''Can we text a bit more, it's just what I'm used to, it makes me happy, it means a lot to me''.

I think many men aren't into texting as much as women anyway. Women like to yap, men like to take action. I personally hate texting. I'm texted out, it bores the shit outta me. If I ever had to start dating again it would be one of the first things I laid out - ''I'm really not big into texting''.

OP is not listening. She just wants to vent while she carries on watching his WhatsApp.

Er, I think I'm on the wrong thread. Can't delete it either, how crap.

It's massive mind games with him

It's not any sort of mind game, he talks to you when he wants attention and no one else is giving it to him.

Now something new and exciting has popped up so he will be allover that now.

Hes deeply insecure and self absorbed man whore that needs a constant supply of validation; and you're begging for scraps of attention why????

If sloppy seconds are your thing then by all means crack on but I seriously think you need to re-evaluate your life choices.

Why on EARTH are you doing this to yourself?!

I'm not asking that flippantly, I'm really asking - why are you allowing yourself to be treated this way?

You're an adult, you need to take control over your life and start making good decisions, like raising the bar you've set for relationships.

I text him
Saying you ok? Your quite
Hope I'm not annoying you

My god come on OP, this is so cringe and is just setting you up for him to be more of an arsehole to you!

You sound desperate in those messages to him but why are you desperate for attention from such a wanker?

Is it just because you want him to sort of 'choose' you? It can't actually be because you think he's an amazing person because he clearly isn't. So I wonder if you just don't want him to not 'choose' you as that would knock your confidence... when in the long run this is all knocking it so much more.

It sounds exhausting, upsetting and very immature. Can you see that?

Oh my god it wouldn't make me angry. It'd make me think I couldn't be arsed. Why do you care if he thinks you're rude? He's rude to you. Don't text him anymore. Forget him and move on.

To quote the old cliches:
He's just not that into you.
Don't make someone your priority when you're just their option.

I'm having a tough time at the minute and just needed someone.
I guess it's not him.
I am annoyed that he thinks he can pick me up whenever he feels like it.

He obviously can pick you up when he wants from the sound of it. Sorry op you don't seem to be listening. Eventually you will learn but the hard way.

He can pick you up whenever he wants because you allow it.

He plays mind games with you and you allow it to continue.

He’ll keep using you until he throws you away because you allow it.

You’ve posted many threads about this guy. Everyone says block him, you don’t. Rinse and repeat.

I am annoyed that he thinks he can pick me up whenever he feels like it.

At the moment he is absolutely right.

So stop letting him, block him and move on.

I know what my problem is.
I have no family left really my dad and my gran(she's gone in care home )
I have 3 friends and that's it
I'm desperate to just have someone,I just want to be happy and someone to care.

For goodness sake, value yourself. Don't put up with this shit. Delete his number, block him on every single social media platform and work on improving your self-esteem. You deserve better than this. Don't ever accept being second or even third best again. He couldn't make it any clearer that he doesn't give a shit about you.