I've written on here before about my frustration at the lack of housework DP doesn't do. He claims to do a lot, but in reality will do the typical "half a job so she won't ask again". E.g. ask him to dust, he will take things off the surfaces, ornaments, candles whatever, put them down, wipe down the surface, then won't put any stuff back. Just leaves it sitting on the floor or wherever he dumped it. This is "so you can see that I've done the dusting", no use to me whatsoever because then I need to go behind him putting things back.
Or when asked to clean the bathroom, he will squirt bleach down the toilet and that will be it. He was actually staring at me in amazement a few weeks ago because I was cleaning the shower- "I didn't know that you did that....."
Anyway, after much frustration he told me that he doesn't know how to clean and if I were to write him a list, he would happily follow it. I refused because he is not a 5 year old kid, he's nearly 40. Why should I write a list??
However after venting my frustrations on here, I was told I was completely unreasonable. The poor man is asking me for help, he wants to try, why would I not be willing to make that compromise for the man I love?
So last night, I wrote him a list. It spans 3 pages but it's very basic (very Mrs Hinch!) It's pretty much idiot-proof and I even did little ticky boxes for him too. 
Let's see how much he wants a list after this!!