Am i bad, a bitch and totally stupid for doing this?

[HayleyWayley]

I have been with Jamie for 9 years, we have 3 kids, we are not married!

For years i have been chatting to male friends online...and since april i have become particularly close to this guy from southampton, i am in portsmouth, i hvent met him yet but i feel a very strong connection to him ..hes sexy funny and caring...i really fancy him, i know its wrong...i love jamie and everything, but i cant help flirting with this guy... he wants us to meet and he says he has fallen for me ( can u fall for someone u never met?) i have strong feelings for him too but i feel silly saying it coz u will all probably say '''how can u if u have never met?'''

I am a sahm so all i do all day ( while baby sleeps) is chat to him... i have been so bad as to let him have my number...we hardly text but we did in the beginning...

Jamie knows i chat to him and has seen some convos we have had ( forgot to delete them) he hates it and says why am i doing it?

well i dunno, it started off as boredom to pass the time but now i have got to know this guy and i cant go theu a day without chattin to him.. he makes me feel good!

I am after constructive crtitism and advice.. idont care if ur harsh.. maybe its the kick up the ass i need!

Was wondering if anyone has been in similar situations

yes hun i understand!

well thanks for all ur great advice and everyone else who replied! xx

so, have you taken steps to block him / delete him/ no longer contact him?

I would guess not...

Me? Yes! Blocked him from my phone and msn and will ignore any emails.

sorry, didn't mean you, meant the OP

Ahhh, sorry.

Yeh, it's really easy to get suckered into these things when you are low/weak, but it takes lots of strength to pull yourself away from it.

no i havent blocked him yet altho i got rid of his mobile no ages ago so its only his msn....i need to spk to him first tho...tell him why xx

u will all think im bein stupid now dont u?

dont spk to him all wkend anyway! only weekdays!

honestly... yes i do thikn you are being stupid.. as i posted yesterday, you owe him nothing, no explanation, it should speak for itself, the fact you are not speaking to him as you are an attached woman with 3 DCs... just stop it NOW. do not give him a a chance to sucker you back in

you have already said that you are addicted to the thrill of his compliments and chat....

so don;t give him another chance...

for your children, you owe it to them

and yourslef

How did you meet him in the first place?

in a chat room hun.. hs the only one who has stuck AROUND.. I KNOW IM PROBABLY BECOMING ANNYOING NOW..... but i cant just block him.. he deserves an explanation at least

Yes I can see how you have become sucked into this 'relationship'. It's probably all very seductive and makes you feel all glowy warm and fancied.

Ask yourself... how many other women is your friend 'chatting' to and trying to persuade to meet him?

Why not just leave him a message 'explaining' then cut all ties.

That way he can't try and talk you out of it

yes that is what i was thinking... leave him an offline message!

i will keep u all updated on it! thanks for all ur advice! xxx

good luck

I met DP online, we had a wonderful connection and decided to meet, I fell in love with his personality ages before we met, and when we did it confirmed what we thought, BUT we were both single at the time.

I chat to many people online, guys included and sometimes have flirted, DP once found a conversation between a very drunk me and another guy, it really hurt him and totally wasnt worth it.

I refuse to be drawn into any kind of 'online flirtations' now as such, but still visit the same chat rooms and sometimes 'flirt' jokily with everyone in there, it gives you just as much fun, and is harmless, getting into a one-to-one flirtation is totally different, understandable, but not ideal.

I havent read anything except op, so sorry if I have missed something!!