Is it unusual for a man NOT to watch porn?

[Bearski77]

I've just been reading a separate thread on porn, which was about women being upset at their partners watching it. My possibly strange view is that I would rather my dh did watch it! We haven't had sex for nine years, nothing sexual or intimate at all, not even a kiss. So you'd think he'd need to find something else to satisfy his needs, but no. He'll stay up late with the telly on, but watching recordings of all the politics programmes like Newsnight, Peston etc. He even watched a re-run of the bloody election results on Christmas Day ffs!!! Anyway, I was talking to my friend about this yesterday and she asked if he ever tried it on with me, and no he never has. She asked if he seemed to fancy me at all and I said no. So she assumed he must watch porn but I said he doesn't and she was really shocked. So is he just a total non-sexual man? Is this normal???

He certainly sounds unusual. Not sure if all men watch porn but the sexlessness is unusual.

Your partner sounds A-Sexual.

It's unusual for men to not watch porn, yes.

I think it’s 50/50 if men watch porn. I would say all have at some point however. Just like women. However I would say it would be hugely rare to never watch porn/have sex in 9years.

I think you'd be hard to find a man, or a women, who had never seen any porn.

Hi OP I was on the other thread in a similar situation I think and thought the same about my DP. Turns out I was wrong and he was watching porn and following porn on Twitter etc as well as engaging in all that type of porn "banter" with mates on Whatsapp, at least recently, after many years of intimacy problems and no sex.

I personally am sort of ok with porn if it's just passively watching - I can see the appeal and in our case, it helped to realise that he WASN'T actually asexual. I do have reservations about the whole objectifying women side of porn, not to mention the fact that I do know that many of the women involved are coerced and may be even sex trafficed. I also think that too much porn does probably desensitise some men and can cause issues with real life sex lives. In our case though, it bizarrely helped. Sex workers are crossing the line for me and I think they are interlinked of course.

So to answer your question though I never though he would be into all that or follow a load of porn shit on twitter in a million years. I really thought he wasn't interested and had become asexual (though I knew his ED functions were at the root of that). I was wrong. Which leads me to believe that yes, virtually all men look at porn.

Most do yes and always find a way to have a wank if they need to. I'd assume your DH is either hiding it very well or is simply A-Sexual

hiding it very well

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He even watched a re-run of the bloody election results on Christmas Day ffs!!!

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I think you've got more on your plate here than a porn debate.

Even if I were a Tory, I'd be hard pushed to want to watch the election results again.

I would say very unusual. Why wouldn't they watch it? Most men aren't hardcore feminists, and porn is designed to hit the spot and be enjoyable to watch.

A bloke not having a very high libido is a different thing. It sounds like your DH is not a very sexual person at the moment.

I’d say it was unusual too but then watching election re runs for a treat puts you in a small set too.

Are you happy as you are? Not all men fit the stereotype. I was actually reading an article a few months ago about how older men especially are often just too tired for all that and dont actually, surprise surprise, feel the need to think about sex all the time. Yet they feel all this pressure to do the macho thing whilst also being told they shouldn't.

To have never seen porn would be unusual. But to not watch it? Perfectly normal, I'd say. I wouldn't know whether they'd be in a minority or not. Some men simply won't be comfortable with it or find it enjoyable.

Where's your sex drive or need for intimacy?

Where's his?

My Dh has zero interest in porn, never watches it. It's blocked on our router and he doesn't have data.

He once wanked over his Mums Littlewood catalogue when he was 14

Why do I know this

It’s very unusual for a man not to watch porn.

It would indicate low sex drive or an extremely active sex life.

Very unusual for a man not to watch porn imo. I'd assume that there's less porn usage among older generations though but that is only a guess.

My husband doesn't watch porn. He thinks the industry exploits women so he doesn't watch it.

He watched it when he was younger for a laugh at uni but would never now.

What did men do before the internet? Again if he's older, he may not have that awful habit ingrained.

My partner doesn't watch porn, doesn't agree with the industry. However he does have a sex drive. I think the lack of sexual intimacy and/or masturbation is unusual, but not watching porn itself isn't strange. Men are able to masturbate without porn!

@BabyLlamaZen - they used to read magazines: penthouse, club etc.

Porn? What's that then?

My ex husband swore blind he never looked at it ( I wouldn't have been bothered if he had) but then accidentally streamed it from his phone through the tv when he was supposed to be 'fixing something' in the shed. It was quite a shock to see a gang bang in the middle of coronation street

My Dh has never watched porn, and nor have I.
The only time I have seen it , was when I was a teenager, I was in a pub that had a lockin, and the landlord put porn on. Really grim. We were a small group of teens, we all looked as young as we were (15/16) , we were drinking soft drinks etc. Anyway I turned round and had a glimpse. We all left swiftly.

My last partner claimed never to watch porn but his sex style suggested otherwise! I'd bet 90% of men who say they never watch porn are telling fibs.

Unless they are actually asexual. And I think that is a tiny, tiny, tiny minority of people.