what would you think of a woman who'd been married 3 times

[returnofthemollymawks]

Would you judge? Would you have a relationship with her?
She seems quite nice but I can't help but wonder what it is about her that makes her relationships fail?

[PumpkinP]

I would think wow, I haven’t even been married once 😂 (not through choice!)

[TooOldForThis67]

I've been married 3 times and am going to do it again! With a man whose been married twice before. I say to anyone questioning this that at 52, having had 3 previous long term relationships isn't that bad and so what if I got married to them or not! Each lasted on average 10 yrs, which isn't bad really. Yes I'm an optimist, glass half full person. Life's too short, who cares what people think.

[Silvergreen]

Don't worry about it. When women are free from money worries and needing support for children, they often have multiple long term relationships throughout life. It's very common with lesbians as anyone who knows, knows.

[Knobblybobbly]

What is a TAAT??

[Axcde]

"I haven't read the other thread, given I'm attracted to women I have no interest in what happens with female-male relationships. It does make me laugh that I'm accused of copying it."

Well that changes everything!
So you have found a lesbian who has been married three times?
Given that marriage has only been legal in the UK since 2014, squeezing three marriages in is pretty good going.

I smell bullshit!

[KnobwithaK]

@Axcde - this is what the OP said upthread

1 marriage to a man, 2 adult children. 2 relationships with women - 1 civil partnership due to differences and 1 marriage. She ended the CP and her wife ended the marriage as she met somebody else

[lynsey91]

@Pelleas maybe they could say "till divorce do us part" or "until I get bored of you"

[RJnomore1]

I’d think she was an optimist 😊

[catinb0oots]

@toooldforthis67 don't mean to sound rude - genuine curious question - why get married again? Why not just live together? Surely it's become meaningless at this point?

[TooOldForThis67]

@catinb0oots - why does anyone bother? It cements the relationship, adds security. I'm an old romantic I guess. This time round I want to grow old together with my man. I would not make future plans with anyone unless I was married, i.e. buying a house together.

[Thisismytimetoshine]

It cements the relationship, adds security
Clearly not, when you're on your fourth go round. How deluded are you?!

[KingOfDogShite]

I would think they were difficult to live with/ had poor judgement/ didn’t take marriage seriously/ liked attention/ bored easily.

That’s women and men btw. I’d feel the same about both and wouldn’t have a romantic relationship with them.

[Gwynfluff]

Knew similar

Marriage about 20 and couple of kids
Marriage late twenties - affair broke it in 30s
Marriage in 40s to someone no kids and she had a very blended family with kids around constantly and it just didn’t work
Marriage in early 50s - also kids in a blended situation and nearly at 20 year mark. Kids were grown up by this stage

[Chillipeanuts]

Everyone seems to agree that Doris Day was a delightful woman. She was married 3 times, I believe, to total a-holes. Worst she could be accused of was optimism and not great judgement 🤷‍♀️

[Thisismytimetoshine]

Or that the 3 husbands knew her slightly better than everyone else in her life? Equally reasonable assumption.

[Chillipeanuts]

Thisismytimetoshine

If you mean DD, not assumptions. Husbands were all very nasty, well documented.

[StarlightLady]

Unlucky maybe?

[suggestionsplease1]

Are you aware of the stats on divorces in women-women relationships and the speculation on the reasons why, OP? Makes for interesting reading (well I found it interesting as a gay woman) - far higher divorce rates in W-W marriages compare to M-M marriages (2.5 times more likely) and also much higher than for W-M marriages.

[Thisismytimetoshine]

What are the reasons?

[crestar]

This must be a set up surely?

The other thread about the man who had been married 3 times was nearly in every reply "Don't go near him, run a mile", etc, etc.

This slightly reworded thread about the woman having been married 3 times gets the replies "Depends on her reasons, depends how old she is", etc, etc.

It really does go to show how shallow and hypocritical most of the 'advice givers' on Mumsnet actually are.

Your best advice is to run as quickly as you can away from this forum.

It's always good for a laugh though!!!!

[MonsterRehab23]

This thread is horrible. A close relative of mine in her 60’s has been married 5 times. She’s one of the most loving, giving people you could have ever met. Probably too loving for her own good. She never meant to be married 5 times, just had terrible luck and suffered terrible abuse in one of her marriages and left to protect her kids. She was also married to one of her husbands for over a decade to provide stability for her kids. I also think her current marriage is about financial security and companionship rather than romantic love.

I know she struggles with her marital history and judging by the responses on this thread it’s not hard to see why. Many people have loads of long term relationships/ons/flings without comment, but marry a couple of crap men and your fair game for bullying/abuse? .

[Silentplikebath]

I’m giving the same reply that I gave about the man with 3 divorces. I wouldn’t want to date this woman because her previous life has too much baggage and too many complications.

[TooOldForThis67]

I agree @MonsterRehab23 - a lot of bitter and cynical people out there. My parents were married over 50 yrs, had children young, stayed together for our sakes, had the old fashioned male/female roles and probably neither could manage without the other. These days women are in a much better position to not put up with shit. I'm more of a humanist, find happiness where you can, live and let live. No one ever thinks, righty oh, I'll get married, give it a few years and move on! We all think this is it and it is, for that moment in time and a lucky few DO live happily ever after. Being bitter is not an attractive state and that's probably the reason some people don't get married again.