He’s messaging someone isn’t he

[Loveabitofrain]

So I’ve had issues with my partner in the past re messaging woman. In all honesty I’ve never trusted him since. Yeah I know why am I still with him. Very good question.

Big row last week where I explain how it’s all made me feel and I don’t trust him, conversation ended with him understanding and promising to help more with that.

We had a few drinks tonight and I went to bed an hour or so before him. He comes up and his phone goes twice (text). Snoring his head off. I looked at his phone to see who messages are from. Something doesn’t feel right. Bear in mind it’s 3am. His phone says “2 iMessages from JoJo”.

I’ve woken him to find out and got the usual abuse. Won’t show me and claims he’s talking to a woman off twitter about all the lockdown business. She gave him her number. He’s been very active debating on Twitter (I can see it all).

It’s bullshit right ladies?! This is typical gaslighting isn’t it??

I’ve just been on his Instagram and there is a woman there calling herself Jojo. Old school friend. Bit too much of a coincidence huh?!

Good morning loveabitofrain! I have just read your post from start to finish.... I am in a similar situation but my bf lies and steals money to fund a cocaine habit... He's stolen from me countless times saying he needs money from out account for parking in London (with work) etc and for 18 months I fell for it all. The similarities is he's very self entitled, gets up late due to depressesion which is no doubt drug induced, and speaks to me like shit half the time. If I confront him of anything he goes mental, and shouting and throwing his arms all over the place and even does it on front of my children. He's upstairs now asleep as he lost his job 3 weeks ago... I am trying to work from home as well as educate my children and keep a good routine going. He will just come down and watch shit on TV all day which makes me sooooo angry. I asked him to move out 6 weeks ago so he rents a room about 10 minutes away and he's meant to stay there a few nights a week but if I ask him to it always ends in a row. He's so needy and insecure. It's his birthday tomorrow and I've actually asked him to go back to his room today and come back either later tonight or tomorrow.... I just need some space. I asked him for space yesterday and he refused to go so I had to go out for a drive! I'm slowly winding the relationship down for 2 reasons, 1 because it will be less of a shock for him and he won't go as crazy of its gradual I hope and 2 he owes me £800 that I really need back and was going to pay me back over 2 months when he gets a job. Feel free to message me if you fancy a chat or a moan x

@Littlekitty115 thank you. I have messaged you x

@Littlekitty115 youre not seeing that money ever again. Seriously. Its gone. He is an addict. Why would he deprive himself drug money for you? He wont.

Youre doing neither of you any favours winding down slowly. Send him to his flat and lock the doors.

Dont make this your children's normal.

No he actually will pay me back, but I he always has done. He earns 3k a month! , when he lived here he paid for pretty much everything as I only work part time so it's not an issue

Hey all! Happy weekend!

So this week hasn’t been too bad so far. My kids have gone to their Dads for a week now so it’s oh so quiet!!

Hoping I’ll be ok. Fingers crossed.

Had 2 sessions of counselling which seemed to go well. Some interesting points made but some points I need clearing up so will do so next week.

Have been keeping a journal too, mainly when I feel like I need to.

I’ve had little contact with the ex. He messaged weds to say he’d taken the rest of the week off of work as hadn’t been able to sleep, he has insomnia but apparently worse at the moment. Then went on to say he’d let me know when he’d be over for his phone charger.

I replied ‘ok’ and that’s been it.

Not been tempted so far to message 😊 x

Well done

Go girl!