Am I naive and stupid to get involved with someone who is an alcoholic?

[PurpleLondon]

I've been seeing a guy for about 5/6 months now. We get on really well and have both developed deep feelings. However it has become apparent that he has a serious problem with alcohol. Drinking about 5/6 large bottles of beer almost daily. (He admitted this to me). I know he has been drinking every day this week. This has been going on for years apparently with the severity changing according to his mood and life situation. He is also mentally unstable and has some mental health issues.
There are times when I've met up with him and he's been completely out of it. I've spoken to him about this at length and he always says he wants to change but the next day he is back drinking.
Should I just end things whilst it's still early days? I have two DC and really wouldn't want to subject them to this in the long run. I have no experience of being with an alcoholic. Part of me is hoping he will change.

He won't change OP, trust me. 2 of my past relationships have been with alcoholics and nothing I did or said made any difference whatsoever.

Don't subject your children to this - they won't forget it and likely won't forgive you for doing it.

My father's drinking destroyed our lives - I'm not exaggerating. Me and my siblings have all ended up with severe mental health issues as a result. It also eventually killed him. Run.

End it. There are plenty of blokes out there who'd be just as nice if not more so, and without these issues.

Yes. Get out now. Will your children thank you for saddling them with a drunk stepdad? I'm amazed you need to ask and I'm hoping that you're just seeking a bit of encouragement and validation before you walk away.

Not even read full thread but get rid now

Your poor DC.
Do not inflict an alcoholic with mental health problems on your DC.
If it was just you then OK, that's your choice.
But protect your DC

My brother was an alcoholic heroin addict, and I'll tell you for a fact that if he admits to 5/6 large bottles, you can double it and then you will be closer to the truth. They NEVER tell the truth about what they drink, not even to themselves.

I say 'was' an alcoholic because he died at 55 after a slow-motion car-crash of a life. Mouth cancer - more common in alcoholics.

It’s so sad isn’t it; reading through all these comments, we have all been touched. I think the hardest thing is watching someone you care about destroy themselves. It’s deeply painful. My ex is sober now, but he is damaged by what he went through and so am I. I’m also angry in that I feel the joy of my children’s childhood was taken away from me. I spent the whole of it anxious about him and about them. What a waste.

Everything everyone is saying is true.

The one thing I want to (keep) adding is that you aren't a fool or an idiot or necessarily selfish for loving this person. You love who you love.

That doesn't mean that you should continue. Not at all. I'm just saying that you dont need heaps of guilt and shaming on top of your obvious distress.

Run run run run run.

Sorry OP.

You probably only know about the tip of the iceberg tbh.
I was in a 12 year relationship with an alcoholic and it's awful
Move on now before you get the guilt trip of "I'll kill myself if you leave me" etc
You will never be his number one.