Do many women have good, enjoyable sex lives after menopause?

[AnotherDayAnotherQuestion]

I'm in my early 40s, happily married for 20 years, and have always had a relatively high sex drive which is well matched to DH's. However, I've recently had some times when I can happily go quite a bit longer without sex, and I keep reading things which make me nervous about the future. Is this definitely going to change dramatically soon, during peri-menopause and menopause? I supposed I'm just wondering whether any older women have encouraging experiences to share, as I keep reading about how you have to redefine your relationship, etc.. I'm not asking for details and am not a troll/pervert - I've been on here yonks, but am serial NCer.
Thank you!

[SlayB]

Hi five @Nowstrong

[DesperateElf]

Really interesting discussion and such a variety of views and angles! I'm 41 and loving my sex life so much more than in my 20s or 30s. I can now DIY very reliably which I wasn't able to, earlier in life. I love sex with a partner more because I'm so much more confident and I know what I want. I'd hate to be losing this part of my life, it feels so exciting and fulfilling. Will see what happens in the next decade but so far so good!

[WaktiWapnasi]

I'm friends with a lady in her 70's who has a very active sex life. She isnt on HRT but does take supplements for libido (must get a list now I'm almost definitely peri).

[missyB1]

I’m 52 and went straight into full menopause at 47 when I had breast cancer and was started on Tamoxifen as my cancer was strongly oestrogen positive. I haven’t had a period for 5 years. I struggle with libido and vaginal atrophy. Still very much in love with my gorgeous dh. Obviously can’t take HRT.
I do still have sex twice a week as I’m determined our sex life must not disappear. However it takes a lot of effort and can be uncomfortable.

[SlayB]

Did you see my post earlier about Nu-V @missyB1 it can be helped I had my consultation with a nurse and after lockdown lifts I'm having a laser to rejuvenate. It was two sessions and third free and then it maintenance 14-18 months after that. No pain just 15 minutes then good to go. Obviously no hanky panky for a week after.

[SlayB]

Sorry about your cancer

[dilly123]

I'm 45 & peri-menopausal (last 12 months have been awful) trying to find the right HRT to take.. but I'm a completely different person in so many ways.. my self confidence was never great but absolutely zero now.. so although I'm single, the interest in meeting someone is also zero!! I just think who on earth would want me.. fat, ugly, old, frumpy & most of the time bloody knackered!! I have no interest in sex whatsoever so it would be unfair to inflict myself on a man..

[HazelBite]

I have been on HRT for about 12 years (mainly for my sanity and that of my family) when I was unable to get it some months ago, sex became very painful and whilst my libido was there the spirit was willing but the body wasn't!
Fortunately the Dr managed to get me some different HRT and normal service has been resumed.

[ITasteSpring]

shameless place marking here - will read later when I have more time!