Massively overstepped the mark with colleague

[BlackCatFan]

I wondered if I could have some advice. I've never been in this situation before.
I started a new job recently, it's well paid (for me) and I tried very hard to get it. Was pleased when I was offered it.

I started with three other new people. One of the guys I sort of noticed, he was generally friendly with me. I thought nothing of it.

We went on a training course and while we had some free time we ended up getting chatting. Turns out we have a great deal in common, especially music which is my thing. He what's app'd me a playlist he'd made. Didn't think much of it, thought I'd made a new friend which I was happy about.

One Friday afternoon we had a long chat about all sorts. I saw him talking to another colleague and as soon as I entered the room he cut the chat short and walked straight to my desk. That night he what's apped me and talked about weekend plans. Nothing weird.

A lot has happened in one week and we ended up flirting which has moved on to full on sexting. Including images......

I like him, and I tried to pull back but I wasn't strong enough. I genuinely think it will be ok at work as long as I'm professional and mature but I still worry about my job

I've looked up some policies and it looks like it's ok to have a work relationship as long as it doesn't disrupt work.

Equally I'm worried he just sees me as a shag

Does anyone have any thoughts on what I should do? Thank you

I can't believe the fuss here. Two supposedly single people meet at work, fancy each other and get a bit carried away messaging in the absence of any other outlet. It might be awkward, it might be the start of something, it might be a mess (if he isn't single) but it isn't a disaster and the OP doesn't need lessons in growing up! She's been a lot more restrained than many.

You mentioned your DP several days ago. Are you in an open relationship?

That's confusing because even then, being in an open relationship doesn't make you single.

Why are you freaking out?

If you like him go for it, sorry about stuff if it happens.

Why on earth would you quit your job? That’s not an adult response is it.

Worry about stuff if it happens is what that meant to say

Sorry OP I wouldn't usually do this but you're silly to lie without name changing.

During the last week you've mentioned elsewhere on here that you do have a partner and also said you have an infatuation with someone at work and it's "dangerous territory" because you can't stop thinking about him.

And now you've had a dick pic from this guy. Your poor partner, what a ridiculous situation to get into - cheating and also being unprofessional.

I asked him if we should break the rules and have a date at his house

You mean he sent you a photo of his penis and you said "Shall I come round to yours?"

Oh dear, busted OP.

I can see this thread being deleted soon for 'privacy' reasons or some such nonsense.

Music is most people's 'thing,'. Don't let something as broad as that trick you into thinking you're soulmates.
It's easy to get fruity with anyone by message. Wait until you've met properly in real life before you give any more of yourself to him.
If things go tits up it could end up being weird for you at work.

OP.

I mean this nicely. Are you well?

You have also mentioned a hospitalised dad and being in a similar position to another poster who was struggling to get a job and was overlooked all the time. although you say you are a key worker and have been signed off sick.

Not to mention your poor DP and your infatuation.

Take time out love

This thread is bullshit

I asked him if we should break the rules and have a date at his house but he agreed it wouldn't be right.

Break the rules of CV or break the rules re: not being single?

Oooooh. It's all bollox then.

So many bored fucks on MN with the lockdown.

On your other thread you said he’s your manager and he has a girlfriend.

FFS

Apocalips with lots of time to cross reference all the bullshitters threads and call them out

Should've known with the massive dripfeed.

Oh. Just seen you're not single. Gross. 'we also have tattoos' oooh, tattoos AND music, wow, definitely meant to be. Unless he's told you he has a foot fetish and then you sent him a pic of your tattooed feet then him sending a dick pic in return is vile. Sounds like he's taking the piss out of you and probably has very little respect for you if you have a partner. He's probably just enjoying seeing how far you'll go.
Can't believe you offered to break the lockdown rules for him. Were you pissed or are you just very young?
Either way I suggest you grow up. Dump your actual partner and then you can fuck whoever you want.

So you're not single then...

For future reference, most men looking for something serious don't send dick pics. You're firmly in the shag zone

@Laiste Indeed. Bored fucks won't get too far LOL.

You’re fine! No worries here. Just style it out. You’re not the one who sent an intimate picture!

I was expecting something a bit more taboo.. just don't do it again? I'm not sure what the issue is - the fact you send pics of the fact you can't go on a date?

Well for some men a photo of feet is way more interesting than a fanjo....

Who knew tatted feet were so crucial in the art of seduction.

This is bollocks, i think, guys.