Hi everyone I'm new here and looking for some advice. I'm 28 and my OH is 30. We have been together 6 years and took a year break in 2018. I work full time and my OH doesn't work.
So since getting back together things were rocky small arguements and bickering etc. In this past year my OH has got himself into the conspiracy theory world which I'm not against, but he also smokes alot of weed. Every day all day just watching vids and smoking weed.
It bothered me when he started giving up jobs very quickly hes been back here living together for a year and had 3 jobs.. all not lasting more than 2 months or a few weeks... which I said to him I'd rather he takes time to find a job that he really wants so he sticks at it then something he hates and keeps quitting. (Ideally I'd like him to work till he finds a dream job as I'm doing but I highly doubt it)
A few weeks after quitting his last job he became a recluse. He has his own bedroom where he will sit and smoke weed and watch these awful awful videos about the illuminati and so on. I mean some of this is really grim stuff.
I am not against conspiracy theorists but it's like hes been hypnotized 😔
He doesnt talk about normal life anymore, doesnt want to even try to get a job because "theres more serious things going on in the world". He doesnt sleep in our bed anymore as hes up all night watching these videos, hes moody and mean with his words.
Its got so hard lately to be around him as all he wants to talk about is how all the celebs are statanists etc and they eat people. Now I'm a very sensitive person and I have very bad anxiety which I've had since I can remember and i have told him i dont want to know a million times as i can never get what he says out of my head (all the bad stuff).
So after months and months of this I finally said right I'll watch a video with you I'll support you in your new world of this and try to understand it.
So we did.. all 2 and a half hours of constant information bashing anyone thats famous. Talking about spirit cooking (that was shocking) and people torturing children and killing them. I felt completely exhausted after watching just 1 of these extremely intense videos..
I thought to myself how on earth does he do this all day every day!!?? I'd be going crazy.
So what do I do now?
I work all the time, I pay for everything even his weed and cigarettes! Yet I get hurled abuse and get called names daily.. ( I'm a sheep - will say that in my face shouting sheep sheep sheep. When I tell him to go away hes like no it's my living room what you gunna do.. he calls me a cunt and a bitch. The list is endless..)
What happened to the man I first got with?? He never used to be like this fiery yes hes irish I love his fiery personality but this is beyond firey it's starting to feel like I cant speak, i cant say anything without me being in the wrong and i can never criticize him or bring up things hes called me and tell him I'm upset. He just plays it off like oh here we go again the victim etc..
I really dont know what to do anymore.
Help 😔