Bf smokes weed and watches conspiracy theories all day every day..

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Hi everyone I'm new here and looking for some advice. I'm 28 and my OH is 30. We have been together 6 years and took a year break in 2018. I work full time and my OH doesn't work.

So since getting back together things were rocky small arguements and bickering etc. In this past year my OH has got himself into the conspiracy theory world which I'm not against, but he also smokes alot of weed. Every day all day just watching vids and smoking weed.
It bothered me when he started giving up jobs very quickly hes been back here living together for a year and had 3 jobs.. all not lasting more than 2 months or a few weeks... which I said to him I'd rather he takes time to find a job that he really wants so he sticks at it then something he hates and keeps quitting. (Ideally I'd like him to work till he finds a dream job as I'm doing but I highly doubt it)
A few weeks after quitting his last job he became a recluse. He has his own bedroom where he will sit and smoke weed and watch these awful awful videos about the illuminati and so on. I mean some of this is really grim stuff.
I am not against conspiracy theorists but it's like hes been hypnotized 😔

He doesnt talk about normal life anymore, doesnt want to even try to get a job because "theres more serious things going on in the world". He doesnt sleep in our bed anymore as hes up all night watching these videos, hes moody and mean with his words.
Its got so hard lately to be around him as all he wants to talk about is how all the celebs are statanists etc and they eat people. Now I'm a very sensitive person and I have very bad anxiety which I've had since I can remember and i have told him i dont want to know a million times as i can never get what he says out of my head (all the bad stuff).

So after months and months of this I finally said right I'll watch a video with you I'll support you in your new world of this and try to understand it.
So we did.. all 2 and a half hours of constant information bashing anyone thats famous. Talking about spirit cooking (that was shocking) and people torturing children and killing them. I felt completely exhausted after watching just 1 of these extremely intense videos..
I thought to myself how on earth does he do this all day every day!!?? I'd be going crazy.

So what do I do now?

I work all the time, I pay for everything even his weed and cigarettes! Yet I get hurled abuse and get called names daily.. ( I'm a sheep - will say that in my face shouting sheep sheep sheep. When I tell him to go away hes like no it's my living room what you gunna do.. he calls me a cunt and a bitch. The list is endless..)
What happened to the man I first got with?? He never used to be like this fiery yes hes irish I love his fiery personality but this is beyond firey it's starting to feel like I cant speak, i cant say anything without me being in the wrong and i can never criticize him or bring up things hes called me and tell him I'm upset. He just plays it off like oh here we go again the victim etc..

I really dont know what to do anymore.

Help 😔

If he doesn't work how does he pay his share of the bills.

He couldn't be much worse, could he? You are completely wasting your time and money on a loser. Please stop his shitness now. Get rid or you'll be enabling him

He sounds fucking mental and possibly dangerous. I know someone like him who’s also very emotionally abusive. Don’t watch anymore of sick videos. You’ll become mentally unwell if you stay with him. Get the duck out of there now and see how long he survives without you funding his habit and lifestyle. Or kick him out. Use the police, anything just don’t waste a minute more of your precious life xx

I got stuck in an abusive relationship with a conspiracy theorist for far too long - they get worse and worse, it’s a sickness. The awful anti Semitism is intolerable.

Oh god @FizzAfterSix this is so true. The anti Semitism is unreal in many of the conspiracy communities isn't it? Hope you're out of touch with whoever was into these things now. That moment when you hear them say something fucking mental, react accordingly and they look at you like you're mad... ugh!

He's an emotionally, Abusive, drug addicted conspiracy theorist.

One of those things might be tolerable or workable through on its own, but 3 strikes and your out right?

Oh yeah and a cocklodger. Forgot that one.

Smokes weed all day every day? Watches videos of child torture? He must be a barrel of laughs. He sounds fucked up.

How the fuck can he afford to do this if he's not working?

I am not against have a smoke but everything in moderation and only if you can afford it and can carry on living a normal, non addicted lifestyle. Many people can. Your OH cannot obviously. He needs professional help.

You've got a drug addicted, frankly quite weird man child who has smoked so much weed he now resides in a parallel universe.

Seriously, leave this waste of space.

Have you got support in real life to help you get away?

You can do better, dump him. I was in a similar relationship many years ago and it dragged me down I was so embarrassed of him. I wanted a boyfriend who worked, didn't take drugs and was a good decent bloke so I was single for a year and then found the best man you'd ever wish to meet who's got the best work ethic, loves socialising in normal situations and is just an all round good man! Dump the loser xx

If he doesn't work how does he pay his share of the bills

He doesn't. The poor OP pays for everything.

How the fuck can he afford to do this if he's not working?

See above.

OP... seriously... every now and again someone posts a thread and the consensus of opinion is 100%. That is all you need to take from this thread. Everyone says you should knock this relationship on the head. And quickly.

There was a reason you had a break of a year before...

I ken what to do.

Get rid of him he sounds like a fucking waster.

Let's face it, smoking weed all day isn't exactly going to be great for clear thinking. That's probably why he's obsessed with conspiracies that likely don't exist.

Get rid.

OP stop think breathe...one question for you What would YOU advise a friend or someone you loved to do? Bet you wouldnt tell them to hang on in there would you? Use your own advise.You know what to do here.Be your own best friend.

Good grief, stop wasting your life with this sorry excuse for a man and ditch him. You will be so much happier.

Doesn't work.... smokes weed... watches conspiracy theories all day.... is "fiery"...

Seriously. Don't waste any more of your life on this total loser.

Get rid of him. And really, really, don't get pregnant to him.

What is your living situation OP? Renting? Owning? In whose name is it? You are paying all the bills so obviously can afford to live alone, in actual fact you will be far better off financially as fags and weed cost a bit. Get it sorted and kick him out! You only get one life - why on earth are you wasting yours?

OP, what is your situation? Is your home in your name only? I agree you must get rid of him but during this crisis you need to plan carefully, things like changing locks are just not so simple right now, or getting friends to help. First thing to be sure of is that you can get him out and keep him out. Don’t give him any inkling. He sounds a nasty piece of work.

Agree with everyone else - you need to get rid

Sounds like he has some serious mental health issues which may be caused by the weed or he is self medicating with it. Either way it's not helping.

You are enabling him to do this. You are paying for his weed and keeping him fed and warm. You need to stop.

He needs to accept he needs help.He needs to seek help. He needs to stop smoking weed and go to the doctor. If he won't do that, you should leave. It will impact your mental health too and you cannot put yourself at risk like this.

I’m sorry OP - this must be hard to read but there is seriously nothing good about this guy.

He is a stoner, cocklodging, paranoid, abusive cunt.
What's to like?
The man you loved does not exist anymore - time to move on.
Sorry OP, but staying will destroy you.

Is this your home?
Where did he live in 2018?

He will never change - it gets worse and worse. He is a v abusive, dangerous, mentally unwell addict. You are funding and facilitating his demise and yours. He will become v physically violent v soon if he hasn’t already.

I know of at least 3 RS like this......each ended tragically - psychotic breakdown leading to sectioning (still in patient 2 years later), suicide, attempted murder left with lifelong brain injury. Each of these guys developed an obsessional hatred with their partners blaming them for everything.

You are at the extreme edge of this trajectory - please seek help in RL to get out. You are in danger.

I think you need to face up to the fact that he is mentally ill. He isn't going to change and you are wasting your time with him.

Corona virus will escalate his MH issues off the scale. The weed has made him paranoid, the conspiracy theories feed that and ramp up his anger, frustration and disordered violent thinking.

The violent content of the videos he watches is another massive risk factor.

I think you know what to do.