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Guy giving me the ick

69 replies

Sapphiresunrise · 26/03/2020 14:19

We have only had one date (before lockdown came into place and everything closed), and it went well.
We had said we would meet up again once the situation is over/improves, but i'm not sure i'm feeling it.

He called his cat a 'mong' and just uses such laddish sayings like "absolute weapons people on that reality show", everything is 'absolute'.

Checked his Instagram and there's a photo of him giving blood which is a wonderful thing to do, but it's a bit like he's having to show everyone he's done it, plus he brought it up almost asap in our conversation. Also photos of him in various poses during a hike, you can just tell he's asked someone to take lots of 'natural' looking photos.

He also doesn't seem to be taking the current crisis very seriously which is worrying. I told him about the idiots who were still meeting up in groups and he said "I think i'm gonna be one of those idiots and go and steal my Dad's lawn mower".

He then asked me the other day "How come you are self-isolating ?"
Oh I don't know, just fancied it really..

Then, he was saying he really needed to 'get out and do something tomorrow night', seemingly oblivious to the point of this lockdown.

We had a good laugh on the date and he seemed to have a good sense of humour. However the other day I was telling him about funny conspiracy theories I had read online (lizard people for example), you could tell he was judging me and not finding them funny at all.

Some of his texts now are just moody and to the point, and I fully understand how difficult the current situation is. But i'd rather not converse with someone if they are going to be like that.

Also at the end of the date, he had some sort of white residue coating his lips..

On the date we did have a really good laugh and got on well. But there's something i'm unsure about. That said I wonder if I am just being fussy because I was attracted to him on our date, does this all sound off-putting or would you see him again ?

I hope this doesn't come across as nasty, I am a bit fussy and probably why i'm always single !

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Sapphiresunrise · 26/03/2020 21:49

Haha it is rank 😂 i'm sure people will have seen it before on others' lips, it's like some sort of creamy white film 🤮

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NotNegan · 26/03/2020 21:53

Seriously, I need to know what the fuck was on his mouth.

Sapphiresunrise · 26/03/2020 21:56

I'm gonna look for a picture now !

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Elieza · 26/03/2020 21:58

Bouff!!
Dump and move on.

ScarlettDarling · 26/03/2020 21:59

Also at the end of the date, he had some sort of white residue coating his lips.. 😂😂😂😂

Sapphiresunrise · 26/03/2020 22:05

I've got a picture but can't work out how to attach it on here !

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Sidge · 26/03/2020 22:06

I’d have ditched him for calling his cat a mong.

That’s just revolting. I don’t want to even talk to people who use those sorts of words, let alone shag them.

mamato3lads · 26/03/2020 22:13

@Sapphiresunrise

No! No bloody picture needed!!
The mental image you have given me is MORE than enough 🤮🤢🤮🤢🤮

mushlett · 26/03/2020 22:18

The white residue on lips is sometimes indicative of cocaine use

Gastonimo · 26/03/2020 22:22

I need to see a picture!

mamato3lads · 26/03/2020 22:24

@Gastonimo

You really don't 🤢

Sapphiresunrise · 26/03/2020 22:28

I shall not be sending the picture after all 😂 if you are curious, it's on Google anyway 😁
@mushlett really ? Damn..

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TemoraryUsername · 26/03/2020 22:32

I'm going to need op to post a photo she has found on Google of the closest "lips with white residue" to his she can find Grin

The only reason I'd stay in touch would be to try to get him to see bloody sense and stay the F home!

MrsDrudge · 26/03/2020 22:35

White residue coating his lips?
He didn’t find your lizard people conspiracy theory amusing?
Perhaps he is one of them himself ......

Sapphiresunrise · 26/03/2020 22:36

@MrsDrudge 😂😂😂

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Bezalelle · 26/03/2020 22:40

He sounds dreadful!

thenightsky · 26/03/2020 22:45

The only time I've seen white residue on someone's lips is at the end of hard 10k races when its hot. The white is salt out of skin.

Sapphiresunrise · 26/03/2020 22:54

I mean to be fair we had probably walked around 10k and without anything to drink.

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Qwerty543 · 26/03/2020 23:04

"Absolute weapons people on that reality show"

WTAF does that mean?! I'd bin him for talking like this, without the rest of it.

Sapphiresunrise · 26/03/2020 23:06

'weapons' is apparently the new word for morons 😂

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PositiveVibez · 26/03/2020 23:06

The fact he even uses the word 'mong', regardless of who it's aimed at, would have made my fanny clap shut faster than a Venus fly trap, and my guts churn.

It's an absolute vile word to use and instantly makes me hate the person who has said it.

I certainly could not picture shagging, let alone contemplating a relationship with someone who uses that language.

Plus the white residue 🤢 fucking gross.

HeIsAVeryBadBoy · 26/03/2020 23:07

He sounds thick as mince

Sapphiresunrise · 26/03/2020 23:11

I agree, it is highly offensive language. He seems to be complying with the lockdown rules now which is reassuring.
This is terrible to say but what if that white residue appeared constantly ? 😬

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famousforwrongreason · 27/03/2020 02:53

White residue sometimes means has done some hard drugs and talking / smoking a lot and is not drinking enough.
You've gone off him anyway. You owe him nothing but Corona time is a perfect excuse.

Mumsie43 · 27/03/2020 08:15

Friend zone him and wait for the entertaining No attention on him response