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Guy giving me the ick

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Sapphiresunrise · 26/03/2020 14:19

We have only had one date (before lockdown came into place and everything closed), and it went well.
We had said we would meet up again once the situation is over/improves, but i'm not sure i'm feeling it.

He called his cat a 'mong' and just uses such laddish sayings like "absolute weapons people on that reality show", everything is 'absolute'.

Checked his Instagram and there's a photo of him giving blood which is a wonderful thing to do, but it's a bit like he's having to show everyone he's done it, plus he brought it up almost asap in our conversation. Also photos of him in various poses during a hike, you can just tell he's asked someone to take lots of 'natural' looking photos.

He also doesn't seem to be taking the current crisis very seriously which is worrying. I told him about the idiots who were still meeting up in groups and he said "I think i'm gonna be one of those idiots and go and steal my Dad's lawn mower".

He then asked me the other day "How come you are self-isolating ?"
Oh I don't know, just fancied it really..

Then, he was saying he really needed to 'get out and do something tomorrow night', seemingly oblivious to the point of this lockdown.

We had a good laugh on the date and he seemed to have a good sense of humour. However the other day I was telling him about funny conspiracy theories I had read online (lizard people for example), you could tell he was judging me and not finding them funny at all.

Some of his texts now are just moody and to the point, and I fully understand how difficult the current situation is. But i'd rather not converse with someone if they are going to be like that.

Also at the end of the date, he had some sort of white residue coating his lips..

On the date we did have a really good laugh and got on well. But there's something i'm unsure about. That said I wonder if I am just being fussy because I was attracted to him on our date, does this all sound off-putting or would you see him again ?

I hope this doesn't come across as nasty, I am a bit fussy and probably why i'm always single !

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category12 · 27/03/2020 08:43

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category12 · 27/03/2020 08:44

Arse, wrong thread, sorry.

Sapphiresunrise · 27/03/2020 08:45

Haha no worries 😂
He seemed quite sporty so hopefully not involved with any sort of drugs.. I will read up on that anyway !

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willowpatterns · 27/03/2020 18:28

White residue eh?

Perhaps he has a fondness for the sherbet dip-dab Grin

category12 · 27/03/2020 18:34
Grin
Sapphiresunrise · 27/03/2020 18:35

Hahah, I don't think it was that but I guess we only had 1 date, you never know 😂

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BatshitCrazyWoman · 27/03/2020 18:50

Agree with PPs, the use of the word 'mong' would have him dumped and blocked so fast Angry

PyongyangKipperbang · 27/03/2020 18:52

Thats not the ick. The ick is personal to the person feeling it towards they are feeling it about.

Everyone would have the ick about this one.

He is just a fucking prick.

Sapphiresunrise · 27/03/2020 19:04

Yeah it's not nice language I agree.. The conversation has died now anyway ! Will have to start looking again once this is all over

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Sapphiresunrise · 27/03/2020 19:06

At least I never kissed those white lips 😂

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Sapphiresunrise · 30/03/2020 11:47

Just an update, he ghosted me anyway (his messages were all moody and short until then) I sent a question and he just never replied. I looked at his dating profile and he's put some brand new pics up so he's obviously still on the lookout.
But yeah he's done me a favour !

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CorianderLord · 30/03/2020 11:50

The white lips is spit and dead skin cells, I sometimes get it a touch because I have eczema so am forever dehydrated on the skin department. I'm talking once or twice a year though.

It could be from boozing because that causes dehydration

CorianderLord · 30/03/2020 11:51

I also dislike 'lads' I find the persona makes them act really thick

Sapphiresunrise · 30/03/2020 11:52

Thank you for explaining that, I didn't know it was linked with eczema.
Yeah I think he was a big drinker by the sounds of it !

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mamato3lads · 30/03/2020 13:36

@Sapphiresunrise

Still cringing about this one. What poor unsuspecting woman will crusty lips target next I wonder ? Shock

Sapphiresunrise · 30/03/2020 14:16

Hahaha oh dear, I pity her 😂😂

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RhubarbTea · 30/03/2020 14:37

He's given me the ick and I've never even seen him

This. He sounds like a fucking twat to be fair, the 'mong' comment is so off and very revealing of who he really is. And I mean, this is him on his BEST behaviour. Hmm I'd move on sharpish if I were you.

Sapphiresunrise · 30/03/2020 14:49

Exactly ! And I told him something about my brother's CV symptoms improving and that's the one he ghosted me on, and yeah exactly that's him on his best behaviour, good riddance 😂

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PyongyangKipperbang · 30/03/2020 21:35

WHat is it with these specimens that they think they are such a catch that can be their usual boorish, boring, bellend selves and we will be so desperate to "catch" them that will willingly jump on their (probably disappointing) cocks?

I am always amazed at some peoples total lack of self awareness! I would be very tempted to message him with a few home truths and some advice about how to make sure that the next one doesnt bail after the first date too. He probably genuinely cant understand why all these woman are bitches, although he sounds like one of those men who would call you a lesbian for not sleeping with him :o

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