Husband showering - AIBU

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So if husband is going into the office on a normally weekday he'll shower as soon as he gets up and be ultra fresh, aftershave the lot. If he works from home or on the weekend, he'll often get up without showering, walk the dog, work in kitchen if a work day or weekends lounge around, do jobs in house, mow the lawn, play with kids, and unless we are actually going out somewhere he won't have showered and start his day fresh and ready until the afternoon. He will do everything first then shower later. Am I being unreasonable? I find it quite unattractive and wonder why he can't just start each day showered, fresh and ready, like I do!! He says he gets grubby jobs done then showers once he's done them, sorry but walking the dog doesn't make you sweat, nor does doing general bits around the house, just have a damn shower!!! Why don't I get the fresh aftershave smelling husband at home that the office get? Lol

Good grief! Is this serious? If that’s all you’ve got to complain about you’re lucky. You are being absolutely totally unreasonable

Wow you sound a treat. I'm with your husband on this.

YABVU

Eh? EH??

I'd personally prefer to shower after walking a dog if possible. They get muddy, they drool, splash in puddles, etc.

Stop being controlling about hus preferred mode of operation.

I actually have this joke with my DH! But we say it in a funny way. He's always lovely smelling for work but I get the "lived in version" he always says the only answer on weekends is for me to shower with him

Ok great!!
I was just wondering if it's me or do other hubby's do this? It's not a huge deal and doesn't actually worry me thanks I was looking at the habits of other men, now I see this is normal I can sleep better at night hahaha

I never get officially ready till I actually have to do anything goes-outy, unless I'm expecting a visitor or something. Still not brushed my teeth, but think if I was with a partner I'd at least've done that.

If you want him to be office-fresh on the weekends or whatever, why not ask him? Not in a way like he's doing something wrong, cos he's not necessarily, but you could say you really like it when he's all fresh and aftershave-y?

I'm with your DH. I get all the jobs that make me sweaty etc done before I shower at weekends :)

If he does all those jobs then he's too busy to be swanning around smelling of aftershave for your delight.

Are you the type of woman who wouldn't even do the food shop unless you are fully made up, coiffed, and perfumed perchance ?? LOL

I take pride in my appearance yes, not done up to the nines but I'm no slob either, a happy medium.
I will let his Neanderthal behaviour continue then hahaha thanks for everyone's input

What is wrong with that ?

No wonder I never come on here - people are so catty. Nothing wrong with anything! 😂

I’m a woman and I only bath and shower at night before bed, folks just gave different habits OP.

Mine is the same, he'll shower if he's going into the office and not bother if he's wfh!

YANBU I'm with you OP. I'd find it a turn off if my DP didn't get up and shower first. Luckily he does shower first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Personally I'd just tell him you don't find it attractive.

That is totally normal

I couldn't care less about my OH showering habits .... but do expect teeth brushed as soon as they get up !

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I'm not going to have a bath or shower today at all. I can't be arsed, it's a sofa and duvet day. I'm fairly sure my partner can cope with this.

On a weekend or a day off I'll do all my jobs and then have a shower. Why get all clean and fresh then do housework etc

Well...my DH Reading in bed and I'm in the bath, so we won't be 'fresh' until around lunchtime.

I think YABU!

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Thanks BlueJava, it's basic hygiene! If you aren't bothered then great but smelling musty and greasy isn't something I find attractive, maybe we are all different!

Does he actually smell though? Or are you just put off by the fact that he hasn't showered?
I'm still in my pyjamas as I'm pottering and doing jobs in the house. I don't smell, and I will shower before I go out.
It's funny how showering is now seen as something to do to prepare yourself for the day, before presenting yourself in public. When I was a child bathing was something you did to wash the day's dirt off before going to bed. I can't even pinpoint when it changed.

No what your husband does makes perfect sense to me and it's how our family lives at the weekends too. Get up, quick face wash, walk dogs/housework/football match and so on. Then home to have a proper shower before going out anywhere else like the supermarket or pub. Why would you shower first thing to then do a lot of dirty jobs and get filthy again?

Work mornings are different of course and we all shower first thing.

It's like washing your face before bed. Do your husbands do that or sleep with the days grease and grime on their faces and pillow?

My 'hubby' only washes on alternate Thursdays