How much 'chasing' at the beginning of a relationship..?

[MascaraOHara]

So this guy at work chased me for a bit and showed an interest, asked me out, took me for a fabulous night out on my birthday etc

A few weeks later however it seem to be me sending the first text etc he always seems keen in his response and what have you but I am starting to wonder if I should just not initiate the next date and see if he actually bothers.

What do you think? He hasn't given me anything to go on so I have no idea if he's interested/not interested or anything..

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yes we're waiting

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the suspense!

Last line of chocchipcookie on Fri 07-Sep-07 17:09:02 post sums it up nicely.

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Sorry guys, lol.. I got bogged down with work Friday afternoon then haven't logged on all weekend.. so the update is..

I left work Friday, pciked dd up and went for something to eat with a friend and her dd.

I was really pissed off and in one of those moods where I could happily have sat and got plastered all evening. Talked things through with her and she agreed this was not liek me at all and that I seemed really down etc admitted to her that I'm not sure that my head is in the right place for a new relationship - lots going on at work, two very sick relatives, just got out of a relationship etc

Completely without thinking I just sent him a text saying I'd be home in about an hour and did he wanted to come round and share a bottle of wine as I was p'd off and could do with the company.. He text back saying of course and that he'd get himself sorted and come round (this was about 8:30 so was v last minute)

Didn't really talk much but curled up on the sofa listening to music while he stroked my hair and was generally attentive which was nice. had a bit of a chat about the situation after a couple of bottles of wine, obviously no definitive answer (I wasn't expecting him to declare undying love or anything) but I think I realise now that we are just quite different in that I am never without my phone, check it all the time, take it everywhere with me and he just doesn't.. he leaves his on silent and checks it occassionally. He told me he wouldn't let his phone rule his life which made me think that maybe he wants to text and stuff but doesn't let himself.

I jokingly said I'd always wondered why he was single but now I knew and that if he didn't get his act together it would just fizzle out..

..Will see what happens this week.

Somebody has just told me he's in the office today and is in a really good mood. unusual.

Well it sounds like you've made sure that the ball is very firmly in his court now!

And now you really must sit back and refrain from texting/ringing him, and see what happens. Otherwise you will be demeaning yourself.

(I suspect you know that really!)

Glad you had a nice evening with him, but sorry you're down.

oh yes, haven't contacted him since.. also have walked passed his office a number of times this morning and have not even looked in, last time I walked past - he called morning to me and gave me a smile and a wink. I just said morning and carried on walking. Feeling much more relaxed about it today and it's funny as I suddenly feel very in control of the situation again which is weird. That said, will see how I feel in a couple of days if he doesn't text. lol.

it all sounds good moh

Please tell me you actually needed to walk past his office a number of times by 9:20am and weren't just doing it so you could ignore him!

Oh god yes, have to walk past his office everytime I leave my desk so to get to my desk, to go and get my morning coffee, to go and speak to somebody else I needed to discuss something with to go to the rpinter etc