Should I text him?

[GreenBottleTops]

I think I did something a bit silly last night and now I’m a bit of a dither.

We had a formal dinner for a work event last night, I hate going to those things and always feel a bit out of my depth. My boss was there too, and we ended up chatting for most of the night rather than doing the networking we were supposed to be doing. We shared a taxi home and he invited me in. We ended up sleeping together.

I came out of a very long term relationship last year, and I’ve never had a one night stand, which I assume this is...

I left early this morning whilst he was still asleep and I haven’t heard from him. I don’t really know what my point is, I just am sort of dreading work on Monday and wonder if I should text him.

I feel like I’m probably overthinking the whole thing *smacks forehead

I probably just need to give myself a shake. I’m just really not adept at this sort of thing. 😳

Don't text him.
Things might be awkward at work--you need to safeguard your job.

Oh dear. No I wouldn’t text

Why do you think he hasn’t texted you?

I don’t think I would get fired or anything, he’s lovely really, so I don’t think he would make this a work thing - but I don’t know.

Could you just call him?

Sounds as though you are both single, both adults, so just just speak to him.

I may be worse if you don't address it now. It may be a bit cringy but it's something that happened. It will be ok.

I just text to see if he’s free for a little chat. Both single, both adults...nothing amiss there, just I guess a slight power dynamic issue because he’s technically my boss.

Why did you leave whilst he was sleeping?

Sounds like you had a really good time.

Could have had a chat if you woke up together.

Why did you leave like that?

Could you just call him? Jesus don't ring him!

I mean, if I woke up and bed-partner had sloped off while I was asleep, I would assume they had had massive second-thoughts about the night before and had legged it - therefore no way would I be texting them.

I think leaving whilst he was asleep has probably made the situation worse.

I reckon he's not text because you bolted whilst he was still asleep and assumes you regret it.

Do you want it to only be a one night stand?

Yeah, why did you leave while he was sleeping? That's a rotten thing to do! How would you feel the other way around? He's probably feeling really embarrassed and assumes you regret the whole thing given you didn't even say goodbye in the morning.

I wouldn't have sneaked off like I had something to be ashamed of

He is probably thinking "wtf did she do that"

If I woke up to an empty bed I'd be quite upset.

That's probably why he hasn't texted as he doesn't think you want to speak to him.

Maybe explain why you did that if you can.

Yea...i think probably I made it worse by running off! I just didn’t really know what to do, but I did have a nice evening and a nice night...and now I think I’ve created an awkward situation.

I shouldn’t call him? Should I text something more useful, like oh sorry I disappeared or something?

I just think I panicked

It's only a one night stand if one or both of you wants it to be. But unless you communicate you won't decide that between you.

Why did you leave this morning? Were you embarrassed?

I think you should text as you legged it this morning.

It's not great to get involved with your boss even if you are both single.

I think the ball is in your court, tbh

Yes text and say sorry for running off.

Yea I would text and blame running off on girly issues or something and ask if he would like to get coffee or brunch.
I would feel shit if someone bolted before I woke up

I just didn’t really know what to do, and felt a bit awkward. He’s been covering a maternity vacancy at work for the last 6 months, but he works at a different location usually and will be moving back there later this year, so won’t be my boss anymore. Technically we’re the same level, but he’s sort of acting up for now.

I don’t want to cause any difficulties for him, and I also feel like I’m just really inexperienced when it comes to relationships, I was with my last partner for 10 years, since we were teenagers and now I feel a bit all at sea, like I just don’t know how this sort of thing works - I don’t think I learned how to date properly maybe.

I would also text and say sorry for slipping out, had to dash and didn't want to wake you, had a good time though! Hope that you had a good day. Leave it at that...

Stop pissing around. You sound like a teenager, not a grown woman.