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Should I text him?

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GreenBottleTops · 22/02/2020 18:10

I think I did something a bit silly last night and now I’m a bit of a dither.

We had a formal dinner for a work event last night, I hate going to those things and always feel a bit out of my depth. My boss was there too, and we ended up chatting for most of the night rather than doing the networking we were supposed to be doing. We shared a taxi home and he invited me in. We ended up sleeping together.

I came out of a very long term relationship last year, and I’ve never had a one night stand, which I assume this is...

I left early this morning whilst he was still asleep and I haven’t heard from him. I don’t really know what my point is, I just am sort of dreading work on Monday and wonder if I should text him.

I feel like I’m probably overthinking the whole thing *smacks forehead

I probably just need to give myself a shake. I’m just really not adept at this sort of thing. 😳

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category12 · 22/02/2020 20:22

Option 1 - text him and say "sorry for bailing last night - had to get back for [insert reason]"

Option 2 - don't text him and style it out on Monday.

Drum2018 · 22/02/2020 20:26

You said in your second post that you had just text him asking if he was free for a chat. Did he respond to that? If not then don't text again. You'll come across as being a bit desperate. The ball is in his court now.

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GreenBottleTops · 22/02/2020 20:27

I feel like a teenager. I know I need to man up - I just feel like a bit of an idiot

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Drum2018 · 22/02/2020 20:27

Sorry - It was your third post.

category12 · 22/02/2020 20:29

Oh I missed that.

gottastopeatingchocolate · 22/02/2020 20:35

How early did you leave? Can you just claim you had somewhere to be?

Agree that if you actually sent the text asking for a little chat, that now you will have to wait to see if he responds. If you haven't sent that, I'd send an apology for leaving without speaking to him (insert excuse here) and - if you wanted to - tell him you had a good evening/night.

Whynosnowyet · 22/02/2020 20:36

Imo pretend it never happened.

TheCatsWhisker · 22/02/2020 20:37

Could you just call him? Jesus don't ring him!

Why not? Can't stand this attitude. FFs, if you've slept with someone person you should surely be able to speak to them.

Rosalo · 22/02/2020 20:39

Oh I missed that you've texted him. Did he reply?

TimeForPlentyIn2020 · 22/02/2020 20:44

Would definitely seem rude to leave before he woke, so I would want to speak to him before Monday to clear the air.

wannabebetter · 22/02/2020 20:44

It's hard to advise as you haven't indicated how you feel - do you want it to be a one night stand or something more? Either way clearly you need to communicate, but how, and what to say differs a lot!!

Muckycat · 22/02/2020 21:39

Would you like this to be more? Either way, I would text and apologise for leaving so early, make an excuse and say you didn't want to wake him. Even if you don't want to continue this it would be a lot friendlier and less awkward than leaving it having done a bunk. I wouldn't expect him to be in touch if you don't.

Muckycat · 22/02/2020 21:41

*Don't acknowledge having done so, I mean. I assume your text didn't.

AnnDaloozier · 22/02/2020 21:42

Omg. I think hot

IAmBeatrixKiddo · 22/02/2020 22:09

Don't text twice!

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GreenBottleTops · 22/02/2020 23:33

He text back to say he was out with his brother, so couldn’t talk, but asked if I was free for a coffee tomorrrow. I have to go to a christening tomorrow so don’t think I can meet him, but we’ve text a few times back and forth and I apologised for sneaking out 😳

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OhCaptain · 23/02/2020 00:14

And what did he say to that?

Can you meet for a drink after the christening?

jwills · 23/02/2020 01:03

Ohhhh

Member377005 · 23/02/2020 01:05

It would be better if you met before work on Monday, or you'll be stewing all Sunday, meet him tomorrow soon as you get way from the christening?

Monty27 · 23/02/2020 01:25

Shamelessly watching
I hope this ends well

FuckingHateRats · 23/02/2020 07:05

Please keep us updated!

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GreenBottleTops · 23/02/2020 08:53

Going to go for a coffee at 4 🤒 I feel like I am being so silly. I didn’t think I would be in a position like this for quite a while, and feel like if I did want something more maybe I’ve messed that up by sleeping with him, and then running away 😬

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Bythecooker · 23/02/2020 09:06

Things will be clearer after the coffee, you haven't done anything bad, sneaking out was a, little daft but lots of people do daft things, it's not like you stole his wallet on the way out (did you?!).. You'll likely just have a giggle about it if you have a good connection. I guess you do need to know in your head what you want going forward though. Good luck.

Musti · 23/02/2020 09:06

Enjoy the christening and don't stress about meeting him later. You seem to think he's a nice guy and it's good he wants to meet you for a coffee. You can then see how he feels and how you feel.

JillAmanda · 23/02/2020 09:13

Thus could be the start of something lovely!

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