Should I text him?

[GreenBottleTops]

I think I did something a bit silly last night and now I’m a bit of a dither.

We had a formal dinner for a work event last night, I hate going to those things and always feel a bit out of my depth. My boss was there too, and we ended up chatting for most of the night rather than doing the networking we were supposed to be doing. We shared a taxi home and he invited me in. We ended up sleeping together.

I came out of a very long term relationship last year, and I’ve never had a one night stand, which I assume this is...

I left early this morning whilst he was still asleep and I haven’t heard from him. I don’t really know what my point is, I just am sort of dreading work on Monday and wonder if I should text him.

I feel like I’m probably overthinking the whole thing *smacks forehead

I probably just need to give myself a shake. I’m just really not adept at this sort of thing. 😳

I’m sure he wouldn’t bother to meet you if he wasn’t interested.

...you mean I shouldn’t have stolen his wallet as well - so many errors all at once 😁.

I don’t think I thought I would be ready to contemplate a relationship so soon after coming out of my last one, so possibly I’ve been a bit blindsided by my feelings on this one. Also have some slightly strange home circumstances where I am the guardian for my little brother, which complicates life a little sometimes.

I do sort of think he is lovely, but maybe for him it was just a one time thing, so I should try and play it cool? Literally a fish out of water, my last date was probably when I was 16.

Ha ha. It sounds to me like you do like him but scared to admit it to both him and yourself. Don't play it too cool, he might think you are not interested, especially after the sneaking out and wallet stealing. I think you need to take a deep breath and take a chance.

Not sure how you can be overthinking this. You fucked your boss. That's pretty major behaviour. What do you want to happen now?

Her temporary boss, it's not like he's going to be around for much longer if he's only covering maternity!
You did nothing wrong and don't let anyone make you think you did.
If you do decide to pursue something just make sure you are careful and follow work guidelines if there are any, and don't bring it in to work!
If you decide to leave it as a one night thing then don't let it worry you.

I think exactly what pp said

OP, this sounds like a Christmas romcom. Hope it works out for you!

Aw @GreenBottleTops you sound so lovely!

I don’t think you need to play it cool necessarily. As in, you don’t have to pretend it’s no big deal! Don’t go proposing or anything

Let him bring it up first!

Standing by for an update!

Just loitering and hoping he's lovely to you at coffee time today.

So...the plan is to go meet him and propose? Solid.

I’ll hopefully play it by ear and be normal about the whole thing. I just sort of freaked out because I’m not very experienced in the bedroom area, I’d been with my last partner for 10 years from we were teenagers so I don’t know what possessed me to dive into it! Presumably that’s not really a story to tell him? I’ll just see what he says and go from there?

Good luck op. He might be feeling exactly the same as you!

I don’t think he would have asked to meet if he wasn’t interested!

I am also standing by for a update :)

Also standing by for an update! Just be honest and open. Could be the start of something and he wouldn’t meet you if he wasn’t interested.......

I'm hopeful this ends ok for you and coffee is relaxed and you're both able to talk x

own it OP!

i can’t wait for the update

OP, regarding what you said about not being experienced in the bedroom area; it's all about chemistry surely. I can honestly say I'm pretty lazy in bed, don't dress up, don't do anything particularly kinky (or dangerous as it seems so many men are into these days), and have being having fantastic, great (or sometimes just good) sex with my DP for years since we met.

Sorry for long post, just saying be yourself, and don't feel you have to 'perform' for him. Anyway enjoy your coffee!

Back from coffee, not a complete disaster! He thought I was a bit mental for sneaking off and was worried he had upset me, but I think I have managed to explain myself without looking too much like a nervous virgin!

He suggested dinner this week...but I’m sort of stuck because I essentially have an 11 year old child (my brother) full time right now. He said maybe a take away at mine.

I think that sounds reasonable, just a bit unsure about whether that’s irresponsible of me when my brother is here? I may be overthinking.

Main thing...I think I quite like him 😳 and he doesn’t seem put off by my tackling him into bed, stealing his wallet, and proposing, so maybe this wasn’t a totally silly thing to do!

@GreenBottleTops glad it went well can someone not babysit your brother for a couple of hours.

Bloody hell have him round for a takeaway- it's time! He's into you and you like him. Why the hell not!

Just remain professional at work.

Glad I went well too !

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