Husband wants divorce

[MrsChuckBass]

My husband of 6 months has texted me today saying he wants a divorce.
No arguments in the lead and this morning we were actually talking about booking a holiday with the DDs (3&5)
I can't believe this is happening and I'm now at work so I can't confront him until I get home tonight

Do you suspect someone else?

How long did you live together before you married? That's the length of the marriage for financial settlement purposes. Don't agree to 50/50 on the children where it didnt exist before - he may propose this for child maintenance/financial settlement purposes. Do not agree to move out of your home. Do not sign anything. As quick as you can, gather any financial information you can and deposit with a trusted friend or family member (yours, not his).

Keep your cards close to your chest, he's no longer a member of your team. See a good family solicitor.

Do you own your home? Do you work?
I'm so sorry. 💐

Oh my god OP, that is unbelievably awful. Do you think there is someone else?

I work full time and DH is a SAHD. Together for 6 years before marriage.
Our home is council and joint tenancy. I think there may be someone else as I can't see any other reason, although until the text message I had thought everything was great between us.
He's not texted me saying have a nice day at work

He's now texted me that should say

I want a divorce.
Have a nice day at work.

Wow. No words, other than I think I'd actually want to go through with a divorce from someone who would approach the end of our marriage with such carelessness. That he'd text you this makes me wonder how much value he's put on the years you've been together and the family you've made. It's sad enough that he wants a divorce, but to approach the enormity of divorce with a cheap text says a lot about the man. You poor soul. What an absolute shock.

How does he find time to cheat with his 3 year old with him? Or are they in school?. Very odd behaviour. He seems in a very fortunate position. Not many men get to be SAHD nor women for that matter because financial reasons.
I know you said no arguments but are you still intimate and affectionate in your relationship, or have you noticed a difference in behaviour?.

Wait till you get home and update. More information the more we will be able to advise. Hoping you the best of luck though

Prepare yourself, there will soon be someone he 'just met', after asking for a divorce, naturally. I'd do nothing just now, I mean, what an arsehole, he texted that he wants a divorce?

The fact that he is a SAHD puts you in a difficult position. You need good legal advice.

How did he come to be a SAHD and you working full time?

I would start tallying up all the childcare and housework you do in your non working hours. Does he do as much housework and wifework as a SAHM? If so, you may have limited options. If he effectively sits home all day and you do all the cooking, cleaning, organising, playdates, hospital visits etc...you may be able to make an argument for a more equal split of the children's time.

I would strongly advise you see a good family solicitor immediately.

So sorry.

Is it at all possible that autocorrect has changed his message and he didn't actually mean to say divorce? Whatever has happened I am sending you lots of flowers for the shock x

Text him back and say, did you mean to put divorce?

What on earth would autocorrect change to divorce??

Disney can apparently according to google for one thing. I must admit my first thought was is this for real, it is totally weird to ask for a divorce out of the blue by text particularly after a happy, harmonious morning planning the summer holiday. It's probably clutching at straws 😐

What? And what did he say when you called him? Which you must have done straight away??

Out of the blue like that ? WTH

I would think you could count this as a family emergency and give him a call while at work?

Apart from gathering financial info, is there anything else she should do?

Sorry, second question was to other people as I don’t really know. It looks a bit odd the way I laid it out though.

Oh my goodness. Are you able to call him?

This is weird, could someone else have nabbed his phone for a few minutes? Or yes, autocorrect?

How was it worded exactly?

At least send him a text back saying 'why?' so you've got an idea before you go back home.
Jeez I couldn't let that play on my mind all day and not contact him Wtf?

Maybe he meant I want Disney ( holidays)

Ring him!

I'd ring him ...

Can you leave work and go see what the hell he is playing at?