Husband wants divorce

[MrsChuckBass]

My husband of 6 months has texted me today saying he wants a divorce.
No arguments in the lead and this morning we were actually talking about booking a holiday with the DDs (3&5)
I can't believe this is happening and I'm now at work so I can't confront him until I get home tonight

Its easy to say there's another woman, and there very well may be. But is he prone to internalizing things and then making sudden impulsive actions which seem to come from nowhere? In its most extreme form I think this is what is called a "meltdown". Very immature though and not cool behavior.

Stupid man!

Well done op

I don't feel strong and bad ass! I feel like I'm falling apart inside and sticking a smile on my face

You can do better than him OP!

You can’t just make comments like ‘I want a divorce’ then come back from it. What a twat, trying to manipulate you! Especially as you have only just got back to work after being unwell. He is vile and immature

OP when I left my (now ex) husband it felt like my life was over but it was actually the best thing I've ever done (other than having my kids). Keep strong it does get easier.

Well that backfired badly on the wanker. Well done, OP. I'm very sorry you've discovered you're married to such a manipulative arsehole and you'll now have to deal with getting him out.

I think you've done the right thing, hard as it is

Have you considered that maybe he didn’t mean it or was being impulsive?

The fact that you seem ok with moving on with divorce suggests that maybe the marriage wasn’t strong to begin with.

But there could be a chance for reconciliation though counselling etc.

Just a thought.

As he is a SAHD, him leaving won’t happen.

@Fantasiaa tough shit if he didn’t mean it. Threatening divorce is shitty behaviour. I personally wouldn’t tolerate it.

I don't care if he was being impulsive.
I'm not spending my life with someone who has so little respect for me they demand a divorce via text while I'm at work

My exh used to use our marriage as a way of getting what he wanted, if I didn't agree with him or did something he didn't like he'd message me to say it was over and he wanted a divorce. I realised after 10 years that this was a way of controlling me and ultimately it was emotional abuse. Note the ex part. Good for you op for not standing for it.

Bloody hell @MrsChuckBass well done you! I’d have loved to see the look on his face.

You are so right though - you can’t live your life with someone who thinks it’s ok to behave like that

I would wait until he goes out, pack his bags & dump them outside, give him what he wants but on your terms.

I don't care if he was being impulsive.I'm not spending my life with someone who has so little respect for me they demand a divorce via text while I'm at work

This gave me a whole body shiver of admiration! I think I love you a bit tbh

Thankyou all for your continued support!
I've got annual leave this week for half term and I've requested next week off as well to try and sort myself out.
We had a whole week of activities planned and my niece is staying so I'm still going ahead with the plans.
He thinks he's fucked me over because all of my family are 200 miles away we are living near his family

Surely that's better. He has somewhere else to stay

Yes, it sounds like you're married and away from family support so he started the manipulation. It's only get worse and more frequent if you fall for it now. Well done for being strong, it'll pay off in the end.

Tell him you're there so he had support, but he clearly wants out, so he can go stay with his 'support'.

Sending that he wants a divorce in a text is unforgivable.

Keep the text!

Christ almighty OP .... you are so strong and I'm bloomin impressed... Stay angry Lady and good luck 💐

You are so strong wow you didn't even flinch. Don't blame you not allowing him to shit on you a second time. What a coward ending it by text and then oh he's changed his mind! Too late mate this lady's not taking your shit boy!

What a knob he is. Stay strong @MrsChuckBass. I'd be like you = Divorce? Sure, where do I sign?

He thinks he's fucked me over because all of my family are 200 miles away we are living near his family

It just means he has no excuse not to move out to live with his family then. He said he wanted to split, so he needs to move out.

Checking back in!
Feeling all over the place, H has tried to be affectionate with cuddles etc so still playing games.
I've got the GP this morning I'll see if he might increase my anti depressants.
We are all supposed to be going ice skating, H has been saying he's not sure is he's coming I can't take the DDs and DN on my own so that'll ruin the whole day for them

@MrsChuckBass don't let it ruin the day, if he doesn't go swap ice skating for the cinema or bowling. I'm sure the kids will enjoy what ever you decide to do x