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Toooldforthis37 · 09/02/2020 21:13

I'm having a tough time online dating!! Met a very wealthy, successful business man before Christmas and we have been dating. He chased me from the start, messaging me frequently, taking me out for lovely meals, constant calls, texts, telling me he will take me to Rome next month etc. The last date we had he told me he was falling for me and we had the exclusivity chat, so far so good. I have been far less full on with him but he knows I like him. We met Wednesday and since then he has cooled right off.... the messages and calls reduced and when I tried to arrange a meet up this week he was vague. I don't get why men do this, act so full on and then run when you start to reciprocate the interest. I do like him so wondered if I should a) distance myself and see if his interest levels increase again b) call him out and acknowledge his decline in interest and ask if he is wanting this to continue c) continue as I was before when all was ok....? Thanks ladies x

OP posts:
Toooldforthis37 · 11/02/2020 22:19

Which is offensive. I'm not emotionally immature and haven't 'fallen for it'... simply came on here to ask for others' opinions.

OP posts:
Onemansoapopera · 11/02/2020 22:29

My opinion is as stated, sorry its not to your liking. Good luck with it.

SageYourResoluteOracle · 11/02/2020 22:41

OP- I had exactly the same thing happen. Trip booked and paid for (deposit- he paid,not me) and itinerary in my easily inbox so it was happening... then the distancing. I 'gave him space'. Then the phone call- he's not ready. He was SO full-on and I'm ashamed to say I loved it after being out of play for 16 years and in a loveless marriage for several. We'd talked big, future stuff. I felt like a bit of a berk: I'm 41. I felt incensed when I then spotted he'd added pictures to his online dating profile and was online: I called him on it! He said he'd not been ready for a relationship but that he was lonely. I think he was a huge attention seeker! But you're not alone. It happens and you've not done anything wrong. And I agree: OLD is brutal and bloody WhatsApp ...Confused Like a return to my teenage years but possibly worse!

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