Would you date someone 20 years younger?

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I'm so new to on line dating .

I'm 47 . No wrinkles yet. Hated looking younger than my age 20 years ago but now it's quite cool!

I've signed up to a dating site . I've only had 2 relationships in my life . My confidence was rick bottom after my last relationship because he was abusive and made me feel worthless. We were together 5 years and I left never though it killed me.

7 month's happily alone and signed up to a paid dating site. - I honestly couldn't believe the attention I got. Some absolutely beautiful men want to see me . I've had 500 + likes and messages in 3 weeks - been very picky and had 4 dates so far but no spark.

I have several more dates lined up. But
I'm 48 this month and one guy who is super keen and seems really nice is 28. That's the same age as my son. He's made me smile and I'm super flattered but is this just too weird ? He keeps saying age is a number and means nothing. He thinks I'm lovely /gorgeous etc and yeah we've been chatting and he seems mature but ???? Should I be drawing a line here on age? I have previously - hell I've had 3 20 year olds try it and told them absolutely no way! I've had 2 relationships in my life . Wtf am I doing ? Am I safe to be let loose on a dating site ?

I seem to recall, could be wrong, that in the Netherlands there is some law about not dating anyone with more than an 8 year age gap? Due to abuse of power etc I think

I’d love to see that piece of legislation... the Netherlands has some of the most liberal attitudes to sex in the world!

I’m a similar age OP and I might see him depending on who else was floating about. However I would only be interested in a casual relationship with him. I think there’s about as much chance of him fetishising being with an older woman as there is of you fetishising being with a younger man ( good body & stamina etc). If you want some fun go for it... if you’re only interested in long term relationships then I’d stick to guys a bit older.

Sometimes being sensible is overrated

Welll 20 years younger for me wouldn't even be 1 years old yet🤣 - I couldn't ever see myself going for someone younger especially since I'm pregnant so the age gap between me and my son is going to be 20 years, meaning it would be someone his age in the future!

But if he makes you happy then go for it! Better try it and see how it works than regretting it

No way. I like lived in faces and the wisdom that can come from life experience. An 18 year old would almost be close to my dd's age. Yuk.

Oh FFS, do you really want to be that sad faced woman in "Take A Break"?

"I can't believe he took all my money and then ran off with someone his own age" DOH!

I say this as a reasonable looking 50 year old woman. There's no fool like an old fool.

There's a reason Turkish waiters in their 20's, target women in their 50's, and it's not for their looks and bodies.

My eldest dc is 20 years younger than me so no. I did date a few guys who were 10 years younger than me when I first separated from my xh but none of them would ever have become full on long term relationships because I was very conscious of the fact that they were in a different life stage to me.

I think if you just want a shag then go for it, if you're looking to actually date then I'd look for someone closer to your age who is more likely to go the distance.

DP is a year younger than me, both on the same page wrt more kids/marrying again/property ownership/career etc which I think would have become an issue with a late 20s/early 30s bloke.

I wouldn't as they would still be a teenager, but even a man in his 20s would be a hard no from me. We regularly have early-20s vet students working with us on their practical rotations and nice and all as most of them are, other than our job I have nothing in common with them. The thought of dating or sleeping with someone around that age gives me the ick, and I'd also be wondering why on earth a 20-something would want to be with someone so much older than them as well. I'd be thinking it was some kind of fetish/ticklist with your mates kind of thing.

Likewise, I find men in their 40s/50s who go after women 20+ years younger than them equally ick, and I wouldn't be interested in dating a man 20 years older than me now. My parents are both 21 years older than me so it would just be incredibly weird.

When I have done OLD in the past I limited the age range that I could search/be searched by to 2 years younger and 6 years older than me. If I didn't do that I found that I got a fair few messages from much younger men, and a hell of a lot from much older men. I wasn't interested in either so it was easier to just set it so that I didn't come up as an option for them.

I wouldn't do it - I'm in my 40s too But even for a fun relationship I wouldn't - I like to chat, have a laugh and have common points of reference. I'd just find it odd. There are men that age at my work and I don't find them attractive at all. When I'm doing OLD, I get loads of messages from young men too - I find it a bit weird tbh.

Nor would I want to go out with someone 20 years older for that matter.

And like pps, I think men who go out with women 20 years younger than them are odd too.

I swerved ! It didn't sit right anyway.

And there are plenty of hotties my age ! Probably all with isshooos....

25 years between my husband and I. On paper it shouldn’t work, but it does, completely. Yes - we both Had to talk about, and understand the implications of having an age - gap relationship, but he’s the one for me. Go for it - you’ll soon know where he’s at. X

I m’m 33 and lived with someone 17 years older for 3 years when I was in my late twenties. It wasn’t a good idea- there was a reason he wanted someone so much younger. He was a Peter Pan type- but with an emotionally abusive edge. It was awful and destroyed my self esteem. Added to which, his teenage children saw me as closer to a peer then step mum. I think ten years is a reasonable bracket- beyond that I’d sat they’ll be trouble.

I personally wouldn't date someone younger, but that's just personal preference. If you like this guy you should go for it while you still can.

If you're looking for a lasting relationship and the younger of the two then I would advise against it, so on that basis i'd say the same to you. The difference between 50 and 70 is huge, 60/80, again, totally different life stages. When Kirk Douglas died I found myself looking at pics of his son michael and Catherine Zeta-Jones. They are so clearly at different stages of life. I think it's nice to be able to share life stages, so I wouldn't choose this. BUT, you and this man will decide for yourselves what your values are and decide accordingly.

I had a couple of sex dates with a 27 year old last year. And a 30 year old. I'm 50.

The 27 year old in particular was an absolute sweetheart, I loved the magical 3 hours total we spent together I loved just meeting a fit bloke for who he is and both having a giggle. Also he definitely had a MILF fantasy going, why the heck not. I felt like a sex goddess.

Serious? Never. I liked his ACDC doormat but I didn't want it in my house!

Oh, I see you decided against it. Probably just as well if you're looking for something potentially serious.

Same age as your son? It's a no from me.
Pick one of the other 500.

No, thanks. My ex I broke up with when I was 24, was 27. I am 45 now and I don't want a repeat. No thanks. A little more time in the oven. More my age.

My partner is 13 years younger than me. We are together 5 years now - live together 4. At the start I just took each day as it came and just enjoyed being in the moment. We have alot in common and I'm divorced. He was 28 when I met him. One thing I will say is 20 years is a big gap but if you are young at heart and he is mature you might meet in the middle.

I am 42 and have recently had a 26 year old try it on with me. He comes across as so young. I absolutely couldn't date him, it feels inappropriate, we have nothing in common and it turns my stomach a bit because of the imbalance of power. If I had a child that age I'd hope people 15 to 20 years older would stay away tbh.

The problem with that age ago, is that you're unlikely to have a lot in common. Unless he's very mature, or you are very young for your age. I have friends 8n their forties who are quite young in outlook, I also know men in their late 20s who behave like teenagers. I think with men, they mature I. Their 30s, and then become either bitter and angry, or very balanced by their 40s

Yes, I'd do it. It's sensible to discuss life stages, careers, aspirations and hobbies prior to embarking on a relationship. There are plenty of men your age who are only looking to fuck, so why miss out on a younger man who wishes to commit. My friend of 50 is with a 30 year old and they've been together for three years.