What is he like socially OP? Is he naturally reserved? What is his previous relationship history?
He's superficially very confident. That's what people see of him but he is socially rather awkward and a bit of an introvert. He was clearly nervous and made an effort to impress me when we first met. He has said he lacks confidence relationship wise.
He has spoken of a 10 year relationship and that's all he's mentioned. There have been a fair few women (according to his friends) but not really relationships from what I can gather.
His actual response was, "why thank you" in case the why changes the tone at all.
He has told me that if he hadn't been on a boys night out and drinking the night we met, he'd never have had the confidence to flirt with me or ask for my number. Which I can believe - we'd met a couple of times previously, spent a while talking and then he shook my hand when he said goodbye at the end of the night.
He has so many positive qualities, there is so much I like about him but I'm not sure that I can be with someone who, after 3 months, can't even tell me that they like me.
And this is why i was asking in the first place really and why knowing if he sees me as his girlfriend or a just someone he's dating casually had become so important. If this is just the way he is then I can deal with that. If he's just not interested, I'd rather know.
It was hard because when we went out with friends at the weekend, everyone clearly assumed we were a couple. I found it really difficult though because people kept referring to us as 'boyfriend and girlfriend' and asking me how it was going and I just replied honestly and said I really like him but I don't know.
I'm meeting one of his oldest, closest friends for lunch this week. I might have to see what she says about it.