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Is he cheating

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 17:30

I have been with my partner for a long time and we have kids together and about 6 months ago he went on a app and is talking to girls on here he says they see only friends and he works away and it has only been us until about 6 moths ago but when he is at home he does show me that he wants me and he put a lot of time into them when he is working away he talk to them every day I just need some advice

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 19:13

I am looking for advice because if he has lost interest how do I get him interested again

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AnastasiaBeverleyHills · 04/02/2020 19:39

Hangouts is a google chat app, like whatsapp or similar. It's not for meeting strangers on ( that I'm aware of!) It's for connecting with your own friends and contacts

Fivetillmidnight · 04/02/2020 19:46

You are a 'dp' what is your situation? Do you jointly own home? Joint tenants ? Joint bank ac ?

Why are you not married ?

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 19:48

We are married we don’t have joint account

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Fivetillmidnight · 04/02/2020 19:50

Joint tenancy or joint mortgage?

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 19:50

He had then on wats app and I think they asked him to get hangouts and then he much of make friends with here friends

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 19:50

Joint tenancy

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 19:51

He is on instagram so think that’s were he meet them

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Fivetillmidnight · 04/02/2020 19:52

.. and why do you refer to him as 'dp' rather than 'DH' .. there is a whole host of different advice available (and accurate) if you are married !!!

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 19:54

What do you mean with dp

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Fivetillmidnight · 04/02/2020 19:55

There are DIFFERENT LEGAL entitlements if you are married !! You have NO Legal entitlements as a DP !!

Flufferbum · 04/02/2020 19:56

Op are you in the UK?

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 19:56

Yes I am in the uk

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 19:58

I just need some advice if he has got board with me how do I get him interested again

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OhDeez · 04/02/2020 19:58

When I use online dating sites, I usually transfer the conversation very quickly to Whatsapp. He is probably finding these women on dating sites, and then chatting to them via the hangouts app.

How did you find out?

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 20:00

What that he was talking to girls he told me he was talking to them on hangouts and they are from the USA

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 20:02

And he talks to people on Instagram so he might off add them from there as well

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Kit19 · 04/02/2020 20:07

It just sounds very odd! I’m in group chats with ppl through shared interests - is there a shared hobby or interest here?

Are the woman all young & attractive?

LittleWing80 · 04/02/2020 20:07

Dp = dear partner and dh = dear husband. The OP mentioned she was new to mumsnet.

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 20:17

They are all about 25 to 30

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 20:18

They live in the USA and he is a wagon driver

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Kit19 · 04/02/2020 20:18

If it’s a google hangout why don’t you ask him if you can join in and see what he says to that

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 20:18

And only delivers in the uk

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 20:19

I don’t think it’s group chat I think it’s one to one chat

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Homelife · 04/02/2020 20:21

If he is not doing anything how can I make him interested in me again

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