How can I stop being so vain

[Usemyname123]

I'm only 28, almost 29, but I feel like my looks are the main reason men like me, but I think if I lose my looks then they will just not be interested at all.
I virtually never do any partying, I don't drink at all, I have an array of creams and lotions that I put on, collagen and retinoids, facial cleansing machine, pills that I take, hair treatments, teeth whitening and i'm getting aligners very soon.
I like to be in control of everything and feel like the only way would be to find a boyfriend who is also into health and early nights. I wouldn't be compatible with someone where i'd have to be out late and at parties all the time.
I'm always looking in the mirror to check I don't have any lines, I do look younger than my age but see friends of mine this age who have started to get lines, and worry that mine will be coming soon.
I think I also have a lot to offer personality wise too, but I'm too into my appearance and i'm scared I won't attract as many men.
My ex left me for someone who people would probably consider prettier than me, and it did dent my confidence.
I suppose I am just lacking in confidence really and need to stop being so vain and focused on my looks.

Hi op, you know I get you, I think the majority of us look in the mirror at some stage and wonder are we enough, is that new lines, creases etc, but you can't let it get to you that much.

I was of the opinion growing up that the most beautiful won the prince, in fact its not that way at all. Look at all the beautiful women that have been cheated on , Cheryl cole , etc and a lot of the time we would say oh why would he do that his wife is a lot more beautiful than the mistress. The fact is its not actually all down to looks with men, or people in general.

Its not always down to personality either, you can only focus on loving yourself and if someone comes along that loves you for you then its a bonus.

I try and keep myself well and healthy and treat myself to little things to make myself feel better, but never to make anyone else see me as better.

OP I understand your struggle, in regards to the lasting effects of school bullies.
However I can guarantee that came from a place of jealousy. From what you say your teeth are the only thing that could bring you down a peg or two!

Yes you do need to relax and enjoy life. You can care about your appe6and still have a good time.
Men will be attracted to your looks but in sure there is more to you than that. You need to show them who you are as a person.
You need to be compassionate to yourself......let go a little and let men and people see the real you, not the lotions and potions.