have been dating him for almost 18 months but dont live together. he's older than me and a very comfortably off self made man/own business. he's been divorced for years. ex wife remarried and doing her own thing. he and ex have one dd in her 20s who I haven't met because he does not have a close relationship with her. I would love to get to know her and for her to be part of our life. the thing that really pees me off is that he has a step daughter who he IS very close to. when he met his ex she was a little girl and didn't have much contact with her real dad so he kind of brought her up as his own. She is now in her 30s and is a surgeon. he's very proud of her. she's a very bright hardworking beautiful girl, but she is also very manipulative and knows how to get what she wants from him. she parties hard and in my view has quite a flamboyant life style. in my opinion she uses him for money. it hacks me off that we have to go out for meals with her and her bf and she's not even his daughter. he still transfers her money every month as he did when she was at med school and has bought her and her bf a flat. in his every day life he is very careful with money and certainly doesn't throw it around. I pay my way when we go out. im from a working class background where kids ar encouraged to be independent. from early on. I love him and want commitment but dont know how I can stomach this attachment he has to this spoilt fancy pants who he doesn't need to subsidise.