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He has disappeared

143 replies

Sosounhappy · 19/01/2020 09:02

Been seeing somebody since May. Seeing him twice a week. Last saw him on Thursday. Said catch up soon no arguments. Normally messages everyday. No contact since Thursday and ignored my messages yesterday. What would you do?

OP posts:
ItsHAVEnotOF · 19/01/2020 21:26

Kerb ball is not a thing. Like when your friends say ‘Mataland’ and then everyone thinks it really is called ‘Mataland’
Just because people say it, doesn’t make it right.

Pinkbonbon · 19/01/2020 21:42

And just because it isn't 'right', doesn't mean you cannot say it :p

WhitePhantom · 19/01/2020 21:43

What's Mataland?

Pinkbonbon · 19/01/2020 21:48

Matalan...I think. I'd probably call it matalands too haha.

coconuttelegraph · 19/01/2020 21:52

And just because it isn't 'right', doesn't mean you cannot say it

I suppose anyone can say whatever they like but that would make for rather bizarre and unintelligible conversations, better surely if people use correct language so we can understand each other

Pinkbonbon · 19/01/2020 22:02

But you did understand. Because of the context it was obvious what was meant.

Life would be somewhat tiresome if we had to point our every little difference in the way people say things even though we know what was meant.

Original poster
Sosounhappy · 19/01/2020 22:03

Still no reply

OP posts:
Bluntness100 · 19/01/2020 22:05

Maybe he lost his phone again,,,

Pinkbonbon · 19/01/2020 22:08

Sad I guess that kinda is the reply then. I think you should go with your gut on this op,he is probably married.

squaky · 19/01/2020 22:10

Who loses their phone for 3 days? 😂😂😂 No one

Pinkbonbon · 19/01/2020 22:12

Yeah...

"Why is the sofa buzzing?" "No idea".

Unless he left it on a bus or something. But nah...

AllideasAndNoAction · 19/01/2020 22:19

Maybe its just me and my fellow street rats that us it though.

Erm, I think it’s just you. 😂

BumbleBeee69 · 19/01/2020 22:20

I suspect you are correct OP... this guy is telling you what you need to here to quieten you down 'right now' .. lost his phone Hmm let book a weekend away Hmm no response Hmm

he's married Flowers

Redruby25 · 19/01/2020 22:37

Sorry not saying this to be nasty, but there are plenty who are attached who might introduce the other person to a friend, and just assuming it was a male friend of his, men will often over look things, or know that their friend is playing away. There are plenty of people who have taken the other woman to the home they share with someone else. But I guess if for example that was his marital home, that's only speculating he is married, you would have noticed if another woman was living in that home with him wouldn't you? How did you meet if you live so far apart can I ask?

IM0GEN · 19/01/2020 22:44

Tell me Op, did you spend Christmas Day together ? After all you had been together 7 months at that time.

How many times have you been away for the weekend together ?

Did you go to his office Christmas night out ?

Have you met any of his family?

Does he have photos of you and him on his SociaL media ?

positive80 · 19/01/2020 22:47

Years ago I was seeing this guy, he lived nearby but was very sheepish about me going to his house, said he had a psycho ex that sometimes turns up, well that psycho ex did turn up at my house one night whilst he was there knocking in my door looking for her husband!!! I was mortified!!
I met her in private and told her all the goings on, what he'd told me, he was playing us both, then I went back to their house to confront him with her and he accused me of being a nutter, to get out and threatened to call the police!! Absolute loon. You couldn't have written it!! Tread carefully with this one, I'd get rid as soon as you can!!!

andthentherewere · 19/01/2020 22:49

Given you've clearly been worried, why would he not call you rather than text. Do you speak on the phone much or is it all text? If it is genuine I am shocked that he didnt consider how worried you would be and didnt call you when he found his phone or communicate with you some other way over the weekend.

Napkintime · 20/01/2020 00:23

Why is everyone piling onto the OP? If he is married, that is neither her fault nor her responsibility.

I hope you're okay, OP. Let us know if he replies.

AnyFucker · 20/01/2020 00:30

Utter pap

RedRec · 20/01/2020 00:31

It is curve ball. Not kerb ball.
He is married.

managedmis · 20/01/2020 00:34

Is it kerb or curb?

Kerb is the thing in the street, curb is to do with curbing your cravings erc

I'm gonna fucking mad here

Hmm
managedmis · 20/01/2020 00:34

P. S. I know it's a curve ball, BTW

Honeyroar · 20/01/2020 00:36

He’s no good, whether he’s married or not. He keeps you at arms length, totally on his terms. Not replying to messages - and even if he had lost his phone he could’ve texted you on someone else’s phone. It is fishy as hell and after several months what’s the point?? Pick up your dignity and move on to someone better.

Osirus · 20/01/2020 00:41

Why would a ball bounce off a kerb straight back at you? confused

Have you NEVER played “kerbie”? Grin

My neighbours did not like us when we were kids!

Sorry OP, I think I’d leave it now.

outherealone · 20/01/2020 02:01

I love @Pinkbonbon’s insistence regarding kerb/curb ball. It’s making me laugh.
I know so many people like this.
Are you always this stubborn @pinkbonbon?

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