Is a 15 year age gap too much?

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Is an age gap of 15 years too much?

I'm 32, he's 47.

Long term yes. Short term no

When you are 55 he'll be 70, so yes.

It depends what you want in your 50's/60's

I would say no but then I have a 22 year age gap with my DH. All good for us

Personally I would say no. You are questioning it so deep down you are thinking it is , for whatever reason .

Short term no. Very quickly long term yes.

I would say no but then I have a 22 year age gap with my DH. All good for us

How old are you?

There's another thread at the moment with a 14 year age gap and the OP of considering having another child, her DH's first child. I think it depends on the individuals.

How invested are you? Have you met him? Are you keen on him? Surely that’s more important? If there is a spark?

There are happy marriages with big age gaps. All depends on the individuals.

There were ten years between my parents. The age difference only started to have a real impact in terms of health and energy when my mother was in her early seventies and my father was in his early eighties.

We have a 17 year age gap, him being older than me, been together 18 years and kids down the line sometimes I could murder him lol 🤣

14/15 year age gap here. Dh was 36 and I was 22 when we met. DH has 2 DC (and we have one on the way).
We have been together for 10 happy happy years (we have had terrible financial/work/family issues but we adore each other) and every single friend/relative/internet stranger said we would never work long term.
There is less time (11years) between his oldest son and I, yet because I met them when they were still in Primary School they have never had an issue with the gap. I do look older, and no-one on the street has ever looked at us oddly (my DH was grey at 21 so pulls off the silver fox v well).
My parents have 10 years between them, (30 years married)
14 years between my grandparents (60+ years married) and yes, now that my Grandad is 80+ and my Grandmother is just passing 70, she is more active than he - but she chose her DH many years ago and always knew he would age before her, therefore making any carer/impact statements bounce off her back like water off a ducks'.
Don't enter into the relationship giving a flying sh*t about what anyone else thinks. Seriously.
EVERYONE has an opinion, if you are black and he is white, if you are tall and he is short or if you are in your 30's and he isn't. You aren't young and dumb (neither was I, regardless of the numerical age of 22) and people aren't living your life.
My DH is the kindest, hardest-working, most loving, most handsome man I have ever met, who has made me want a child after years of me never ever considering it. (by made, I mean that I had to have his child just to have a part of him). We were told for years that we would never make it, but we have and we will continue to for as long as we continue to love and respect each other.
A poll on this site will never tell you if he is the right man for you. As long as you can talk on the same wavelength, laugh at the world together and respect each others lives before each other (e.g 2SC was a huge thing for me as I have never liked children, but he was an excellent father regardless of not being married to their mother and he was on the same wavelength as I, that they weren't to meet me until we had decided we were going to be a longterm couple, so as not to disrupt their lives.) I now adore said SC and can't live without them.
Please don't worry about what anyone says or thinks. If you get along, have that undeniable spark and see that next date/next holiday/next step with them then do it, bugger what anyone else thinks.

No , there’s a 16 year age gap between me and DH & we’ve been married for a while :)

Do you have kids? Does he? Do you want kids?

16 years between me and OH- I'm 34 he is 50. Met 5 years ago. We both didn't want anymore children, and we both are aware that in the future the age gap will feel much bigger. I love him though!

15 year gap here, DH is older. Been together 8 years, Absolutely adore each other.

LuckiestB I love your post.

It depends on your stages on life!

Thank you @Pinkarsedfly
I never comment (first one ever!) but can't stand people getting told who to love. Glad you have a DH you adore too.

All I see on this site are women talking about their useless (or worse) DH, yet these women are the same ones who will tell you that your choice of partner is incorrect as they were born in the decade before you
Boils my blood if I'm honest!

12 year age here, hubby older. Been together nearly 30 years so obviously works for us!

No of course a 15y age gap isn't too large. Ignore those that say it is.

My OH is 13y older than me and we are very much in love and have been together 10 years.

What difference does age make to love?

I wouldn't care if my OH was 30 years older than me, it's the person that I am in love with.

I think as long as you go into it with your eyes open re the future, and what a large age gap may entail for you when he’s retiring and you’re nowhere near that stage etc, I can’t see why it couldn’t work.
I was with someone 14 years older than me. I was 20 when we met and 21 when we got together and he was quite wonderful in a lot of ways. We broke up in the end because I wanted something serious (marriage, kids) and he wasn’t at that stage... my point being, age isn’t a guarantee of equal life stage.

I'm not dating, I've been married forever, but all I'm going to say is that I'm 55 and I'm not at all keen on the thought of being in a relationship with a 70 year old. This could be you in 23 years' time. It might be fine when you are young, but you may end up as his carer. I have a friend in this situation. She adores her DH, but it's difficult.

Im 21 years younger than my partner.
He is 54 Im 33 age isn't a issue for us.
We are both pretty happy. We have been together about 15 months.

Honestly, what are your lifestyles? If you guys enjoy being active and eating healthy foods, then the age difference won’t matter.

My man is 55 and I’m 32. But we both love running marathons/mud runs and we cook meals together every day. He doesn’t eat takeout or snack.

Only bringing this up because most people who don’t exercise or eat well get into a boring routine of watching tv, snacking, and drinking. All those bad habits can age a person tremendously.