Is a 15 year age gap too much?

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Is an age gap of 15 years too much?

I'm 32, he's 47.

Actually, age gap aside for a moment.

He is 47 and has young kids and yet his marriage (relationship with their mother) has broken down.

Even if you were only 5 years younger than he is, that snippet of information would make me wonder if he entered in to a marriage just to have kids. Did he marry his children's mother?
Why does he tell you it ended?

It doesn't work like that. If only life were so simple.

Not 100% of the time no, but what's he's like now is an indicator of how quickly he will age. Yes he may be unlucky/ change but that isn't just age-dependent.

Not 100% of the time no, but what's he's like now is an indicator of how quickly he will age.

No it's not. Don't be so ridiculous.

The relationship ended due to her not him...& it's definitely been done with for a long time

@Booksareforkids19 I demand that you get the camera out of my living room immediately!!!!

shamefully switches off the tv to walk up and down the stairs a few times

I know you say the relationship ended due to her but who is giving you this information?
A 47 year old man with young kids dating a woman 15 years younger than him does look like a mid-life crisis.
If you want marriage and kids it may be worth probing this aspect and observing how he parents his children.

It really is down to individual circumstances and the type of person the older is. For a lot of people it works, for others, it won't. My ex is with someone 15 years younger now and I wouldn't like to be in her shoes when he gets to his 60s/70s!! It might be ok to bag a young woman in her 20s when you are bloke in your 40s, but the age difference can be quite apparent as the decades roll by and they turn full on Victor Meldrew. Flipping the other side, I have a friend whose husband (52) has just left her for a woman 16 years older (68)! So whatever floats your own boat!

I'm also in agreement with @DramaAlpaca - I'm late 40s and if I dated someone 15 years older, they would be in their mid-60s...personally I haven't come across men of that age I would want to actually date/be with. I suppose that changes when you do the growing old together bit and the love/respect is still there.

Just seen the info on him having young children...that definitely gives a different slant on things. As one of the PP has said...age aside...I'd be concerned about that.

Depends on your stage of life. 27 year age gap here. When we met, didn't bother me. Now I'm in my thirties and he in his sixties and I whilst I love him, I feel we're in very different places right now and I'm not sure what to do. I feel held back. I want to do more with life and I feel he's ready to retire and live a quiet life

The past relationship and kids has nothing to do with what I'm asking.

I know what happened and I know how he is with his kids, if I had any doubts there then I'd not do anything.

The kids thing would worry me most.
At 32 are you ready for kids?
Has this relationship established enough to even do that yet?
He will probably be 50+ when you have a child.
At 60-65 you want to retire and have a life of doing what you want.
Going where you want. Travelling. Exploring.
He will have a teenager!!!!
Sorry, but fuck that. He may feel the same.
Especially if he already has young kids.
It may be a moot point if you have to end it anyway!

OK then.... YES - at these ages, it is too big an age gap!

My DF is 15 years older than my SM - they've been together 15 years. She was 45 when they met. They are blissfully happy