Do I expect too much?

[Lcjams]

So me and my boyfriend have been together for about 15 months. He is part of a local cricket club and had to buy flowers for some of the WAGS that help out in the club (doing teas, cleaning,etc)
He took £50 out of the club money to buy these and went to the florist to get 5 bouquets.
I didn't know he was doing this and when i went round to his house questioned the flowers. He explained and i joked where was my bunch from him. He wasnt happy about this off the cuff comment and said he only had the exact amount, flourist didnt accept card payment and i shouldn't expect flowers from him anyway.
In the whole time we've been together he has only bought me flowers once when it was my birthday. He drives past said florist every day on his way home from work and never thinks to buy me any. He even dropped some off as a surprise outside one of the other cricket WAGS workplace because she couldnt attend the actual ceremony where they all received them. I would love to be surprised with him standing with flowers at my work!!!

Am i just young and naive (25yrs) to think a boyfriend should buy flowers randomly for his girl? My dad buys my mum flowers every other month or so and has done for the last 30 years. Do i expect too much?

I’ve just dumped a 2 year relationship because he wouldn’t even buy me £8 worth of groceries when I has just come out if hospital for an operation.

I think you need to get some perspective. You sound unbelievably high maintenance. Be careful he doesn’t dump you for being so

I'm shocked that after all the kindness and advise YOU were given about being a mug on your own thread.. you come on here and speak so coldly to the OP... just WOW

@BumbleBeee69 they were two completely different situations

@BumbleBeee69 they were two completely different situations

yes .. you took it for an entire 2 years

SHE took it for an entire 2 years ...

Yeah probably am a bit paranoid. I go on here late at night when I'm feeling mad and post stuff I probably shouldnt haha I really need to stop my membership. Haha. Seriously.

I’m sorry, I don’t think OP is being a mug though? Sorry if I offended you @BumbleBeee69 I didn’t mean to. If the OP’s guy is kind, generous and not being abusive - if he is a keeper generally, then I do think the OP should get some perspective or risk getting dumped for being too high maintenance! Perhaps I didn’t word it very kindly for which I apologise OP.

Buggedandconfused not atall... no apology required .. I'm happy you ditched your 'problem guy' and are taking care of yourself...

plus .. I don't believe the OP's problem is the flowers it;s the way he responded to her that bothered me.. hell I'll send her flowers..

My DH of 7 years has bought me flowers once - February 15th when they were half price in a supermarket on his way home from work but he would do anything for me and shows me he loves me in so many way. You need to adjust your perspective here.

I’ve also never been into men buying me flowers since a teacher in school told us that she was always jealous of a girl who lived next door to her as her boyfriend was always bringing her flowers and she found out later they were apology flowers and he was beating her. I was about 16 when she told us that story and I’ve never forgotten it.

@BumbleBeee69 thanks for replying, I do feel bad. I’ve been in ‘angry mode’ after breaking up with him and I probably needed a prod to bump mr out of it! Thanks 💐

Buggedandconfused

Aaww nooo .. I feel bad too... I'm so sorry [blush}

DP has never bought me flowers. He has bought flowers for his DM and his nan, it's not an issue, he is aware of my preferences. I dont like cut flowers.

Is the real issue that he bought flowers for 5 other women? Cos that's what it sounds like.
Oh and WAGs?? Really?

but it's not the indicator of whether he loves me. The fact he takes the kids to school when I'm tired , remembered my favourite pillow when we visited his family, knows that I always forget to make myself a coffee before a conference call so brings me one and places it so my clients cant see him.....that shows me he loves me.

This is spot on. Flowers mean absolutely nothing, it's the everyday actions that matter.

@BumbleBeee69 seriously no worries 🥰