Do I expect too much?

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So me and my boyfriend have been together for about 15 months. He is part of a local cricket club and had to buy flowers for some of the WAGS that help out in the club (doing teas, cleaning,etc)
He took £50 out of the club money to buy these and went to the florist to get 5 bouquets.
I didn't know he was doing this and when i went round to his house questioned the flowers. He explained and i joked where was my bunch from him. He wasnt happy about this off the cuff comment and said he only had the exact amount, flourist didnt accept card payment and i shouldn't expect flowers from him anyway.
In the whole time we've been together he has only bought me flowers once when it was my birthday. He drives past said florist every day on his way home from work and never thinks to buy me any. He even dropped some off as a surprise outside one of the other cricket WAGS workplace because she couldnt attend the actual ceremony where they all received them. I would love to be surprised with him standing with flowers at my work!!!

Am i just young and naive (25yrs) to think a boyfriend should buy flowers randomly for his girl? My dad buys my mum flowers every other month or so and has done for the last 30 years. Do i expect too much?

You sound a bit needy OP.

Passive aggressive complaints passed off as jokes are rude

This

@BumbleBeee69 he responded like that because OP threw her toys out the pram about not having being given flowers. His response was entirely justified and you sound like hard work.

This response is just fucking RUDE....

Nah, what's rude is making passive aggressive hints about wanting flowers!

It’s not the 1950s. Presumably you work and can afford to buy your own flowers? Why should a man have to buy treats for his girlfriend who is an independent adult with her own income?

The fact that he did this for the WAGS from the cricket club is irrelevant. Those flowers were a thank you for something they did and we’re paid for with club money.

I get flowers on mother's day and that's it. They're lovely and I always really like them but I wouldn't expect them every week.
I don't understand why women expect flowers regularly. Just buy your own if you're that bothered!!

Been with my OH 10 years.....NEVER got flowers! Still happily in love!

I buy my wife flowers all the time because she really likes it and it cheers her up and I’ve sent them to work too. She also buys me flowers too. It’s really kind and makes us both feel appreciated so I get where you are coming from. I think men don’t appreciate it so much and therefore don’t think to do it so often. We both pick up little things for each other and write each other cards too. Maybe it’s just he doesn’t understand it as it wouldn’t be something he’d want, rather than him not doing it on purpose if you will.

I get my partner some maybe once every other month (although last month I got her a potted plant). I 'complained' a few weekst back that I never get any flowers.. and she got me some yesterday 😂

If you want to be bought flowers, then express that seriously.

you sound like hard work.

as do you ...

No I don't think you're expecting too much. And to say he bought flowers for another WAG? I don't care what the reason is, that's suspicious. He did that unbidden because he felt bad for her not attending the ceremony, yet you his girlfriend never get a bunch, except once on your birthday? Maybe you should start missing ceremonies a bit more often if that's all it takes for him to start buying flowers for other women. That is plain wrong and he crossed a line, Its my gut feeling he finds her attractive. Now that is one thing, but buying her flowers is another. What did he want? for her to approve of him and be pleased with him, that's what. People don't do these things for no reason, sure it can be explained as him just being a nice guy, but he dosent sound that, nice when his own girl friend asks for a bunch she is more than entitled to. You poor thing. He sounds not worth your time tbh, did you tell him it was a joke and to lighten up a bit? (although as someone else pointed out, I think although it was clearly intended as a joke, your feelings run a lot deeper than a throwaway meaningless joke)

Everyone on here is so moral!! Everyting I go on here I'm always surprised at how little I seem to agfeee with people, it's like everyone is very worthy and ernest and has textbook received morality. Haha I know I can be like that too in real life though sometimes.

Wow that was kind of mean 😕 how is it attention seeking? And as for waste of time, your asking this lady to pretend her feelings don't exist. Nice. The only one seeking attention is her boyfriend who prefers to buy flowers for other peoples wives

Don't patronise me please.

Oh ok fair enough I understand you now, let's hope that's not the case here

Playing up? I wouldn't say that, these are her genuine feelings. Playing up is "being naughty" lol.

Giver her hell from us... Your clearly a man.

Good night everyone

I understand you OP. It's not necessarily about flowers as an item but it's about him knowing you like flowers and making an effort to make you happy through a nice gesture.

My DH buys me flowers for no reason every so often because he sees my face light up when I receive it, which in turn makes him happy too. Or if I have had a bad day at work, he will try to make me feel better by buying me flowers.

Buying flowers isn't the be all and end all of the relationship, but if it's important to you, he should listen.

Of course there are plenty of other ways to show love. You don't have to buy flowers. And that's exactly why it makes it special.

@Tigerburningbright I'm not a man and you're paranoid as fuck if you assume her DP fancies all 5 women who be bought flowers for to say thank you for their voluntary work

I’ve just dumped a 2 year relationship because he wouldn’t even buy me £8 worth of groceries when I has just come out if hospital for an operation.

I think you need to get some perspective. You sound unbelievably high maintenance. Be careful he doesn’t dump you for being so!