How do I get him to leave?

[StLucia4]

I own my house. It’s mortgaged.

Boyfriend has lived here 18months. I’ve own it for 25years.

Relationship has broken down beyond repair. I want him to leave.

The problem; he has no job, no savings, no friends or family to call upon and £15 in his account.

He was working but unfortunately the job came to a natural end and there are no offers on the horizon.

How do I get him to leave?

How the fuck does a grown ass man who earns decently not have any savings?

He’s taking the piss OP.

the Council will not house a single man... it takes years... his lack of income is not your responsibility.. his lack of friends is not your responsibility.. he needs to move out to get Job Seekers allowance.. again not your responsibility, you're not his wife so who told him this ? are you 100% sure he's telling you the truth or is he telling you all thus bullshit so he needs to stay longer because really nothing about his situation is his responsibility OP.. he is playing the long game.. wearing you down and because he knows you are so kind and he knows you will say nothing to friends... knows your generous you will actually never force his hand... and make him leave... so he wins.. living free for life..

I've been homeless twice. You don't have to pay to be in council temporary accommodation, because the council apply for the help with housing costs to cover it, except maybe a couple of quid to run the lights or something.

He would be in temporary accommodation while they assess whether they have a duty to house him. If not, they will provide other help to find somewhere, such as Registered Social Landlords, or something similar to the Bond Scheme, which provides landlords with a deposit to take tenants. I obviously don't 100% know the options in your area, but either way he needs to get down to the council offices and queue.

They might not have a duty to house but they won't just let him on the streets, they'll give him help to sort something out.

If he comes back claiming they didn't help him then just ignore. They will.

The council won’t take years to house him if he goes into homeless because they pay nearly double the rent in homeless houses that they do normal rentals. Why wouldn’t a single man get a house from council?! Lots of single men have council houses, that’s sounds silly as if the council only help females!

They will help him apply for UC etc while he's in a hostel or whatever.

You do have to pay for council homeless properties if you work, obviously if you don’t work then you won’t need too.

No you have to apply for UC first before council otherwise you’d be in a homeless property with no way from the DWP to pay for it, you apply for UC, get the appointment at the job centre and then go to council and I agree with a PP, they have to help him as a relationship breakdown isn’t intentionally making yourself homeless.

the Council will not house a single man... it takes years

Depends on the council, they're not all the same and not everywhere has a housing crisis.

Depends on the council, they're not all the same and not everywhere has a housing crisis.

I agree.. I'm in Scotland.. he would get housed here, but OP is down south where I assume property is premium and prioritised to single parents etc .. he doesn't have kids or does he ?

Takes a while to get an actual permanent tenancy maybe but not a homeless B+B, Hostel etc, and I’m in Edinburgh and got a new permanent home within 2 years and 4 months of going into homeless and for a capital city and me not being vulnerable, disabled etc, then that’s really good and I had rent arrears with a housing association and in order to be housed permanently then I had to be paying my arrears off for 3 months consistently and show them proof of this and I didn’t organise to pay my debts right away and so if I had I would’ve been housed far earlier, isn’t the housing crisis’ mainly in London?

Yes. How does a grown man who used to sell mortgages in a previous life not have any savings . I guess he’s come down to earth hard as less than 5years ago he was earning 3k for two days work as a private consultant for companies who were seeking a financial lift and looking for ways to save money.
I have been in disbelief myself saying ‘it’s a shame you didn’t take yr own advice’.
Too much luxury living and not enough forward thinking.
To be fair, this is quite common as I know lots of couples who would be screwed if one moved out as they rely on both their earnings to survive.
Sadly, he’s not earning. That’s the real problem here.

I must have made myself clear as he is now desperately on his phone seeking/researching answers.

He needs to make a homeless application ancc dc be applying to every housing association and council in the area.

are you absolutely sure he's.... skint? OP

@BumbleBeee69 yes. He used to show me his income on phone and pay housekeeping. He was generous with his pay and never had any money at the end. I was forever telling him he should save a little.
He’s very proud and barely had any alcohol at Xmas as he knew we were strapped for cash.

He’s very proud and barely had any alcohol at Xmas as he knew we were strapped for cash.

a typo I assume .. or does he consider your income as his income ?

He’s extremely worried this evening and I think it’s just hit him that I’m serious and tonight will be his last evening here.

Aahhh okay..

Has he gone now @StLucia4

but OP is down south

She isnt. I thought I'd missed that so went back to check. I'm north.. not your far north and he would be housed here.

Good luck OP.

I have given him a reprieve until end of January as 2 jobs came up today and he has applied for both.
If he fails to get either of these 2 jobs or one of his own independently, he leaves end of January.
@gamerchick I live in East of England.
I’ve also been given numerous Forces charities to pass on too.
I felt like a right twat last night when I read the Council leaflet online and learned he will get Breakfast at the B&B if he secured accommodation and then wondered where his next meal would come from due to him having no money. I thought I may as well drive him to the nearest desert and leave him there. His bloody phone isn’t even reliable.
I just couldn’t do it.
I know I’m not his mother.
I know I’m not responsible for him.
He’s guilty of having no savings but he doesn’t deserve to starve and be on the streets.
However, i will steel myself for end of January to do exactly that if he fails to get either of the roles he’s applied for this month.
Job opportunities were very few prior to Xmas but the New Year seems to have brought a change.
I promise to keep you updated.
I appreciate your thoughts and support.
Remember- i feel exactly the same as you. I’d be screaming get rid of him but in the cold light of day- I couldn’t do it. It seemed inhumane purely because he’s a good man.
If he was a complete arse I’d have the anger and courage to do it.
I’ve endured him looking for a new job for 3months. I can wait 3 more weeks

By the way, that donut is for me. Ha ha I awarded it to myself!

He would not have been without money/ food. The council have emergency payments they give out. They give them out within a few hours too.

Thank you SharkAttack1972 That sounds very reassuring. Due to the job roles that’s came up today I felt the need to give one last ditch effort.
Fingers crossed.

Your concern is very kind but he should be able to get assistance with food until he receives a benefit payment. There are food banks across the UK - if he has to leave yours without any income in place then he will need to find out how to get a referral for a food parcel.