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What does this text mean?

137 replies

Shakespearian55 · 04/01/2020 21:44

My apologies for this being so teenage.

I've been on a couple of dates with a man I really like. I asked him if he was free for a drink yesterday, which he wasn't. Fair enough. So I text back saying 'Okay. Let me know if you do fancy a drink one day x', and the reply was 'Of course x'.

Is he saying of course he'll let me know if he does decide he fancies it, or of course he does fancy it? I don't want to make a fool of myself by beating a dead horse, but I've been single for years and really like him.

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NotSusanna · 04/01/2020 21:45

Of curse he will let you know if he does fancy a drink with you again.

NotSusanna · 04/01/2020 21:45

course*

m00rfarm · 04/01/2020 21:45

He is not interested. He will get back to you if he changes his mind. That’s what it sounds like to me.

skinkymalinki · 04/01/2020 21:46

So just leave it now. If he wants to see you again he will get in touch.
Don’t ask him again and keep your options open .

Missarad · 04/01/2020 21:46

I'd say he was meaning of course he wants to meet up again as otherwise he wouldn't have text bk remember single men usually are messaging a number of women until your confirmed sort of thing

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Shakespearian55 · 04/01/2020 21:48

Ahh Crown Sad Was afraid of that. He had been texting me regularly since our last date so I thought he was interested. He had his children last night and did say it was a shame he couldn't make what I had invited him to. Must just be clinging to hope though.

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CloudyVanilla · 04/01/2020 21:50

Awh sorry OP, if he has cancelled one and then said a vague answer it doesn't sound super positive :(

Granted I have only had one proper relationship but when me and DP first me we were both super eager and both offering potential dates and times. Don't give up completely but keep looking!

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Shakespearian55 · 04/01/2020 21:51

I'd say he was meaning of course he wants to meet up again as otherwise he wouldn't have text bk remember single men usually are messaging a number of women until your confirmed sort of thing

I'd like to believe that this is what he means. We went out with mutual friends the last time we saw each other, and I know he was telling one how much he liked me but didn't know if I was interested, so it all seemed positive.

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silenceofthemams · 04/01/2020 21:51

Sounds fairly open to me, so I can see why you might be confused. Only he knows whether "of course" means I'm unbelievably busy and don't have my schedule to hand or, I have some other dates lined up and I'm going to keep you in a holding pattern until I decide what to do next.

Otherwise why wouldn't he just give a suggestion of a free night? 🤷

Personally I wouldn't be hanging for a reply.

Danni12 · 04/01/2020 21:52

It's so ambiguous it's hard to tell from just "of course". It could mean he is interested and of course he'll text you or it could be a neutral response or even a brush off....I would wait and see if he texts you again....

Spied · 04/01/2020 21:52

Don't think he's that into it tbh.
He's keeping you in case nothing better turns up.

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Shakespearian55 · 04/01/2020 21:54

sorry OP, if he has cancelled one and then said a vague answer it doesn't sound super positive sad

Oh no, he hasn't cancelled anything. We met in a bar, and I've seen him twice since when I've invited him along to things with my friends. On the last occasion, he told one of them that he really liked me, but didn't know if I was interested, and the same night we ended up kissing. That was only this week. I said two dates because I didn't want to post a huge background for people to have to read.

Then yesterday I was going out to our local and text to see if he was free, and he replied saying he has his children and it was a shame, the that's when I sent the OP text.

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Mounty87 · 04/01/2020 21:56

If he wanted to see you again then he’d reply to that text with some possible dates and times.

It really is that simple. Sorry.

Honeyroar · 04/01/2020 21:59

I’d stick my neck on the block here and say “let me know what days you can do and I will see if I’m free on any of them then we can arrange something”. Give him one last chance to show some enthusiasm!

puzzled198 · 04/01/2020 22:00

Doesn't sound like he's interested to me. What did he say in his first text saying he was busy? I would have expected a suggestion of another date by him.

TheresGotToBeMoreToLife · 04/01/2020 22:03

Hmmm no I dont think he's interested. I'd forget this one and move on to the next!

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Shakespearian55 · 04/01/2020 22:04

What did he say in his first text saying he was busy?

We had been texting during the day, then I said 'you're not out at (our local) tonight by any chance?', and he said 'unfortunately not, I've got the kids. What are you up to?', and I said 'going to x with my friends, thought you might be about', and he said 'ah that's a shame! Have fun, catch you another time.' The last text was a bit longer but included stuff not relevant.

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Shakespearian55 · 04/01/2020 22:05

Hmm no I dont think he's interested. I'd forget this one and move on to the next!

There isn't a next! I'm happily single to be honest, I just liked him.

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ThatsWotSheSaid · 04/01/2020 22:05

It could be either that he’s not in to you and is keeping it vague or he means he would of course like to meet again. You’ll either have to wait and see or send a needy text asking for clarity.

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Shakespearian55 · 04/01/2020 22:08

It could be either that he’s not in to you and is keeping it vague or he means he would of course like to meet again. You’ll either have to wait and see or send a needy text asking for clarity.

Grin I might text him one last time tomorrow. It's so confusing though because up until now it's been him who's been more keen than me.

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BunnytheBlueWhale · 04/01/2020 22:09

OP it’s really hard to say. I would think if he was v interested he’d suggest another date. He could just not be that into you. BUT he could have been in the middle of something or tired when you texted.

Do not text him again. I’d leave it at least a week and see if he messages you. Don’t chase him.

1987Nic · 04/01/2020 22:09

I would definitely say that he’s interested in you especially since he’s met your friends. Have you been texting again today?

Sarahandco · 04/01/2020 22:10

I think the message is a bit ambiguous. I wouldn't write him off yet. He could have meant, of course, he will want to meet for a drink. If he was busy with his kids he may not have had time to type a proper response

Ikeameatballs · 04/01/2020 22:12

Now you’ve given the back story I’d read this more positively than PPs have.

I think he’s just busy with his kids tonight but does want to meet up with you again.

Your choices, in order to find this out, are either:
Say, ok well I’m free X, Y and Z. Do any of those work for you?
Or
Wait until he messages you again

HoofWankingSpangleCunt · 04/01/2020 22:14

He sounds interested to me Op. *

It just shows that you can't take something out of context and ascribe a true meaning to it. From all that you've said, he sounds like he likes you.

*Disclaimer: happily going into my 4th year single so I'm not an expert or anything. Smile