What does this text mean?

[Shakespearian55]

My apologies for this being so teenage.

I've been on a couple of dates with a man I really like. I asked him if he was free for a drink yesterday, which he wasn't. Fair enough. So I text back saying 'Okay. Let me know if you do fancy a drink one day x', and the reply was 'Of course x'.

Is he saying of course he'll let me know if he does decide he fancies it, or of course he does fancy it? I don't want to make a fool of myself by beating a dead horse, but I've been single for years and really like him.

Ah the shagging on New Year's Eve puts a bit of a different spin on it. I'm not sure he's acting keen op if I'm honest.

Just text him, what's the point in game playing? Get it out in the open for goodness sake.

Don’t text again. You have made your interest clear and left the ball in his court. If he’s keen he will arrange something.

Not texting again isn’t playing games. OP has been plain and visible in her interest in meeting up. Offer made. If there’s anything in it, he’ll respond by taking her up on it. That’s the lay of the land.

I wouldn’t ask twice.

The thing is you've already texted him and asked him, you've already asked him to let you know if and when he ever wants to go out again. Texting him again and you maybe start to look like a pest.

It's not game playing because she's already asked him. And then she's asked to let her know if he wants to go out. Asking a third time starts to move into stalker territory.

I also think if he was hugely interested he'd have said, of course, let me look at my diary and come back with a date, or of course, how about Saturday. Just "of course" is closing it down.

“Of course” could just have been a quick message he could send in the middle of looking after his kids

It’s really hard to say OP

Personally I wouldn’t text him again unless he gets in touch

Have you seen him since you slept with him?

I wouldn’t be reassured by ‘of course x’.
I’d think...vague, polite, open ended...I’m an option at best, more likely I’m being gently dismissed.

I wouldn’t chase that up.

Leave it up to him to get in touch, (I wouldn't hold out any hopes).

If a man wants to be with you he will let you know.

If a man acts flighty, doesn’t respond to texts, doesn’t make definite plans then he’s not that bothered.

Sorry

If a man wants to be with you he will let you know

Agree. As will most women. But in this instance she's already let him know. Then let him know again. He may just be busy, although I'm not sure I buy that, as a parent, or he may be a shit communicator, but if someone asks you out, generally you can find two mins in your day to respond to show intent.

I think he got the company and shag he wanted over Christmas and now he is politely dismissing you.
I would strike this up to a couple of nice evenings spent and move on being happily single.
I wouldn't text him, I think you're worth a little more than that.
If he was interested in anything more than what has already happened he wouldve let you know.
But then again I'm a cynical cowbag lol.

When you slept together how did you leave it op? Did you spend the night together? Talk about dating etc?

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That's my thinking. He didn't ask you on a date, just suggestions on where to go and you offered then shagged him. His response is neutral at best. He definitely could have suggested another night if he was keen.

OP, well done for getting back out there but now you need to leave it. How long has he been separated?

Wait a minute, is this the same 'what does this text mean' post that keeps getting deleted?

I'd send one text suggesting a date in the next week or so, then leave it xxx

Leave it. You'll soon realise one way or the other.

JUST ASK HIM OUT! Seriously, I could not be doing with all the drama. Send this:

"Hi X :) Hope you had a good time last night. Do you fancy grabbing a drink during the week? I'm free on X days :) x

When you slept together how did you leave it op? Did you spend the night together? Talk about dating etc? Yes, spent the night together, left it really well. Didn't talk about dating but did talk about 'next time'.

That's my thinking. He didn't ask you on a date, just suggestions on where to go and you offered then shagged him. He did ask me, between the two nights I invited him along, but I was busy on the night he suggested.

Wait a minute, is this the same 'what does this text mean' post that keeps getting deleted? No.

Give the guy a chance, he had his children last night. I often send half hearted texts when I'm busy. He didnt cancel, he simply had other plans. Stop worrying and take it slowly, theres no need to rush or put pressure in one another.

Update

Took the advice I wanted to hear of some posters and took the plunge with texting him. Got a text back asking if I wanted to go out on Wednesday. I am a very happy woman

Oh that’s good OP

Yay OP so delighted for you. I wanted to post earlier but thought it was too close to call so couldn’t really help. Fortune favours the brave!

I'm so glad OP. Hope you have a good time.

Good luck for Wednesday!