I bit the tip of his tongue off

[user1471462428]

Ongoing issues in our relationship with him promising to take time off and help with the kids then going to work anyway. Ignoring me and talking on his phone. Financial abuse which I’ve realised has been going on throughout our relationship. Today the kids have gone for a sleep after late nights. I was looking forward to having a hour by myself. But instead he gets into bed next me and starts touching me. I say I’m not interested. He carries on and climbs on top of me and puts his tongue in my mouth. I’ve completely seen red and bit the end off his tongue. He ran away crying and whimpering. I should feel bad but I’m just fucking full of rage for my shitty life. Should I leave? I know if he calls the police I’m fucked. Can’t stop shaking

Genuine question - wouldn't requesting deletion of the thread amount to spoilation of evidence?

I’d take a pretty logical guess that based on her username she’s name-changed for this thread

Nope.

You did nothing wrong, you acted in self defence as he was attempting to rape you.

There's nothing wrong with you- your anger is because you're sick of being raped and abused, which is perfectly reasonable.

She can't call 999 as it's not an emergency, she can report it and he may be questioned, so will she and if he denies it she is left having caused him actual harm with no proof there was attempted rape.

Get advice from Women's Aid OP.

@DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn how do you know?

@Divebar are you trying to blame the OP?

The justice system will look for ways to blame the OP, the CPS throw out most rape cases because of lack of evidence that's how it works in the UK and the police know this.

@Divebar understanding that doesn't make her the enemy, if anything her advice is about preventing further harm to OP and her kids.

She can call the police on 999 if she is scared he will retaliate. She doesn't know if he is still in the house or not, if she feels in danger she absolutely should call.

how do you know?

A simple Advanced Search will show she's used that name for a couple of years.

Call. The. Police.

She can't call 999 as it's not an emergency, she can report it@lilmishap of course she can call 999 if she feels that she's in danger

Well that was an awful bold fail...

My god what is wrong with some people searching her user name the girl needs advice support links .poor you op I'd advise you leave hunny taking the kids he will be too embarrassed to go to police hope u fid him some harm he deserves it and if he threatens you tell him you will do him for attempting rape.....good luck

I cannot believe some of the responses on here. Particularly from the poster from the police! He climbed on top of her after touching her against her will and then forced his tongue in her mouth. That’s sexual assault at the very least, and she could have very reasonably assumed he was going to rape her. Especially if he’s done it before, which it sounds like he has. If she is in danger of looking guilty of assault, how exactly are they going to explain how his tongue ended up in her mouth? If it was a consensual kiss she wouldn’t have bit him would she?

No wonder rape convictions are so low if the police are equivocal about situations like this!

I’m sorry op. I hope you get the help and support you need.

If I went to bed and my partner started touching me I said NO and he climbed on top of me and forced his tongue in my mouth I wouldn’t lie there thinking about oh is he going to rape me or how far he was going to go I would be getting him the fuck off of me pronto in any way I could and if that meant biting his tongue then so be it.. hell mend and all that. OP you are not an animal you reacted in the heat of the moment to a situation that could have escalated pretty quickly sometimes there’s no time to think things through you do what you can to keep yourself safe.

My god what is wrong with some people searching her user name

FFS, there's nothing wrong with a search, seeing there is a long posting history and moving on 🙄 What is wrong with you?

How are you now op? x

Hope you're ok OP.

Hope your ok

Are you alright? X

Call the police.

@user1471462428 I've just read your posts and I wanted to add to the voices of support. You are not an animal and you deserve happiness. What you did was a reaction to the abuse you've been receiving. I hope you and the children are safe.

How are things today OP?

I hope you're safe OP, please come and let us know you're ok x

@YappityYapYap how can you possibly say it wasn't attempted rape?

OP are you ok?