I bit the tip of his tongue off

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Ongoing issues in our relationship with him promising to take time off and help with the kids then going to work anyway. Ignoring me and talking on his phone. Financial abuse which I’ve realised has been going on throughout our relationship. Today the kids have gone for a sleep after late nights. I was looking forward to having a hour by myself. But instead he gets into bed next me and starts touching me. I say I’m not interested. He carries on and climbs on top of me and puts his tongue in my mouth. I’ve completely seen red and bit the end off his tongue. He ran away crying and whimpering. I should feel bad but I’m just fucking full of rage for my shitty life. Should I leave? I know if he calls the police I’m fucked. Can’t stop shaking

Call the police. It's in the best interests of you and your children.

Good luck OP, my heart goes out to you.

I'm sure you didn't bite the end of his tongue off just a nasty gash, but tongues bleed profusely. He won't call the police, and I'm sure you know this is the last straw and you need to make plans to split. Do not put up with this any longer. He is a c..t

Yup totally agree with everyone else self defence you said no and he carried on regardless. If an unwelcome tongue found its way in my mouth he’d have lost more than the tip. Phone the police yourself and report it rape is no joke you did what you had to do in the moment you can’t be judged for that

Yellow I spat it out in my en-suite. Turns out I’m fucking animal. The rage I felt was horrific I’ve never felt anything like it. I’m still shaking. Need to go get the kids up.

"Police please, my partner bit the end of my tongue after I forcefully shuvved it in her mouth, after she told me she weren't interested"

Dont panic about the police OP. IF he even did call them they would quickly realise what the hell happened. Disgusting man. You stood up for yourself, you should feel happy but yes I agree, its time to get rid of him as it will only escalate.

Where is he now?

Good on you. You defended yourself. I don't even want to think about what could have happened if you hadn't done what you did. You must feel really shocked at what happened. It's a horrible outcome but it's his own bloody fault.

How much force did that take?!

That rage is good. It has kept you safe. If anyone is an animal, it's the guy who sees fit to have sex on you whenever he fancies, whether you want it or not.

I don’t know where he is and I’m too scared to leave my room and look. I’m really shaky and I don’t want the kids to see me.

Your partner tried to force himself on you despite you saying no.

This is called rape

What you did was self defence.

The police wouldn’t arrest you

It’s his fault not yours.
If you have some read read this. It might help you decide. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3775676-Recently-separated-from-controlling-partner-now-I-can

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I would bite the tongue off anyone who tried to rape me as well.
Call the police and report him, you need to get out of there sweetheart

I don't agree with what he did - at all - but I'm also not sure that was a reasonable level of force in reaction. Could you not have pushed him off instead? Genuine question btw, obviously I don't know the exact situation.

But regardless it all sounds awful for you.

I have no idea how I managed to bite his tongue off I just snapped. I can’t go on like this

Did he try and rape you? Was he clothed? Were you?

He was trying to rape you, you acted in self defence. If I were you I'd ask him to leave and start divorce pro. He sounds vile

The adrenaline of the moment gave her the force to do it, I would imagine. Like tiny 90lb mothers lifting cars off their children and stuff like that. Survival instinct kicked in.

You defended yourself against someone forcing himself on you sexually. You acted out of instinct, self defence. You need to call the police my love I know it feels impossible but this isn't going to get better if it continues. You're being sexually assaulted in your own home, you are not the animal x

You need to make a solid plan to leave, if that's what you want to do. He sounds vile and you snapping is completely understandable. Maybe speak with Women's Aid?

Can you call the police as you are possibly in danger. Of course you are shaking. You aren't an animal, the only way anyone could get their tongue bitten is by putting it in someone elses mouth and you had clearly said no. Why should you just accept beingvraped? Of course you shouldn't! If you don't want to call police can you call someone you trust to come round now, to protect you and help calm you?

ok one step at a time.
Wash your face and go and get your children.
Get them all in one room and phone the police
If you don't want to phone check here and see if your local constabulary are set up to receive text messages.
www.police.uk/contact/force-websites/
hold tight

I think you should be the one to call the police..

Phone the police!! Phone them now. You have children. You cannot go on like this. Phone the police