That's it really, if I met her in street I wouldn't want to know her.
She never bothered with hugging me and my sibling growing up but now she's older she's constantly trying to and I just don't like it.
She drinks too much, she's mean, she slags off everyone in the family and dosent understand why they won't visit, as soon as someone does go round she has a go at them. No one likes going there, everyone is fed up to back teeth of her incessant bitching about everyone and the constant guilt trips about not going to see her.
I feel so guilty though, I moved away a long time ago with my partner and our kids, go to see her a few times a year but even that is just too much. But people always say you only get one mum...... I used to miss going back but now I really don't like going.
I'm lucky I have family where I live a sister and her children, she also feels the same and we are both utterly guilt ridden.
How can you want to be part of someone's life which has nothing nice to say about anyone??? The guilt trips are horrific at times, example ' you will miss me when I've gone' ' I am your only mum, the only one you have so I expect nice presents for my bday/Xmas, i don't care if you are short of money'
She's in her 70's now but she certainly is not a nice lady. How on earth do you just ignore it and put up with it when you don't like them as an actual person?