Would you ask him who he was with last night?

[xmasevebirthdaygirl]

Guy who I'm "seeing" isn't committed to me and is seeing lots of other women.
When I say seeing,it's pretty much just sleeping with them.
He texts so many women.
I've thought about starting the new year a fresh slate and just saying leave me alone.
Last night he didn't speak to me (the night before constant texts ) so he was with someone.
So do I ask him who he was with?
Or play it cool and pretend I don't care?
I hate knowing but I hate not knowing too.

Block him, don't contact him, get over him.

He doesn't give a shit so neither should you.

Have a happy new year and new start.

Exactly what @KellyHall says.

Having a fuckbuddy is fine and good so long as both sides have no Feelings, but now you have feelings its going to give your mental health a real kicking. You need to disengage.

I've thought about starting the new year a fresh slate and just saying leave me alone.

Do this now, don't wait for the new year.

Who cares who he was with, it makes no actual difference. Try and move on from him.

I'm sorry but to him you are just one of many. Don't wait until the new year, block his number today. Don't text him a goodbye message or anything because the chances are, when he eventually messages you and you don't respond, he won't think anything of it whatsoever.

Agree with everyone else. Block him and move on.

I think I might have been “seeing” the same guy for most of this year. It’s awful. Tell him it’s over. Find someone who wants you only.
I’m starting next year with a clean slate. It makes me feel so sad but I need more. You deserve more too!

Why would it make you feel better to know who he's with?

Is this so you can ' gauge ' if they are a threat?

What do you want from him?
If it's a relationship, you won't get it. He won't all of a sudden decide he loves you and only you. Why? Because he has no respect.

Just block him and move on.

It doesn't matter who he was with. He isn't committed to you. He could give yoy any STI under the sun.

Start now.

I spent last Saturday night with him and we shared a bed but nothing happened.
His phone he was talking to this girl and she was sending him naked pictures.
Stupidly I had been sending him pics too (not naked tho) it just made me feel a bit cheap.
My mental health is taking a bartering,I'm on here every other day just as some sort of output to how I feel.
My friends are sick of me,sick of telling me to block him and get angry that I've let it go on so long.
I hate thinking of him with someone else

Surely your worth more than that ?
He's looking for lots of notches on his bed post .
Don't be one of them.

Why does it matter which particular woman he was with? I don't understand that, you know you're one of many, I doubt it will make you feel better to know which one, and I'm sure if they asked, in the times he is with uou, it won't help them either.

No good can come of this. He’s not going to suddenly realise that you are the only one he wants and become devoted to you. @QueenWhatevs hits the nail on the head by saying if you continue with this you mental health will take a real kicking. It’s so true.
What would you tell a friend in your situation? Block and move on. Easier said than done but you really need to.

I've got into this habit of him telling me who it is and then me looking at them on Facebook,wondering what she's got that I don't have etc etc.
The worst bit is him knowing I want him and want a relationship and him not liking me enough to want me back.

Oh my god how many threads do you need to post about him. You don't seem happy and each time you post, you get the same response, which is dump him. Stop wasting your and everyone else time, just dump him for goodness sake.

It doesn't matter who is was with, and asking him won't help. You know he's seeing and texting other women and basically just shagging you (and a whole lot of others as well probably)

This is not making you happy or what you want from a relationship.

I'd just send him a goodbye text 'this isn't working for me, I'm looking for an exclusive relationship not someone who is seeing multiple women, all the best for the future, goodbye' and them block him on everything.

You can't control what he does or how shittily he treats you and other women. You can choose to cut all contact. I know what I'd do.

You keep ignoring the same advice, what do you get from all of this?

Get some dignity. He is being totally honest with you. He does not want a relationship, he wants you on standby. You want more, you are not going to get it, he is not for you. Stop hankering after crumbs. Find somebody else but work on your self esteem first.

Definitely end it now, right now. You deserve so much better than this, and it’s nothing more than a waste of your time. Start prioritising yourself. The only way is up

Stop stroking his ego. Block him and have a nice life!

I'd just send him a goodbye text 'this isn't working for me, I'm looking for an exclusive relationship not someone who is seeing multiple women, all the best for the future, goodbye' and them block him on everything.

^ this

He doesn't care about you and asking him who he was with will just make you even more insecure.

I'll say again that I disagree and wouldn't even bother with a goodbye text, I'd just block. He physically will not care that you've text him and I think this will just put you in a position where you might be waiting for him to respond. Take back some control.

Have some respect for yourself and cut this man out of your life now. And get an STI check.

Well - he sounds a catch.

What are you doing anywhere near this apology for a man?

I am constantly amazed on here by the women who have no self-respect - it is very sad.

Dump him and block him you silly sausage.