Would you ask him who he was with last night?

[xmasevebirthdaygirl]

Guy who I'm "seeing" isn't committed to me and is seeing lots of other women.
When I say seeing,it's pretty much just sleeping with them.
He texts so many women.
I've thought about starting the new year a fresh slate and just saying leave me alone.
Last night he didn't speak to me (the night before constant texts ) so he was with someone.
So do I ask him who he was with?
Or play it cool and pretend I don't care?
I hate knowing but I hate not knowing too.

I haven't slept with him since October.
We went out on a date end of November had such a good night,he was sober and no drugs that night and he was a totally different person.
Then the next night he went out and had sex with a married woman round the back of the bar she works and told me.

My friends are sick of me,sick of telling me to block him and get angry that I've let it go on so long

And everyone on MN is telling you the same thing. Dump him and block him.

You already know he’s not interested in anything serious and you’re allowing yourself to be treated that way which indicates you may have low self esteem issues etc. What are you hoping this all will lead to? He won’t commit to you.

But you don't want a relationship with him. He's a twat. You just want to 'win', to prove to yourself that you're better than the other girls.
Only that's never going to happen, because the only thing he values in a woman is availability. So stop being available and let him lose. Then you win!

Get rid of him. No one deserves to be treated with such little respect, but he will treat you this way because you're allowing him to. What exactly are you getting from this? Because it's making you feel shit.

Your just a fuck buddy

And your a mug OP

Just block him. No goodbye text. No this isn’t working. Just stop

Why do you need another thread?

You have an 8 page one about all this already, and someone posted on it only this morning. What are you expecting to be different? Don't you get tired of going round in circles and trying to make us go round in circles with you too?

I'm bored of these threads already- God knows what it must be like to be living it!

I refer you to your previous thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3776054-he-says-when-he-meets-someone-he-will-stop-speaking-to-me-stop-it-now

Why don’t you just end it and see what happens? You are going round in circles and have been for a long time. Just try it. I think you will feel much more free and healthy.

What is stopping you calling it a day?

You seem to have a very low opinion of yourself that you would put up with this shit

OP he isn’t interested in you. There will be someone that genuinely likes and more importantly, respects you.
Move on. You know what he’s doing to you. You know it isn’t healthy.

Do you really want any kind of relationship with a man you can’t trust and who makes you feel shit about yourself?
Stop focusing on him and look after yourself. He’s enjoying controlling you.

The worst bit is him knowing I want him and want a relationship and him not liking me enough to want me back.

Happens to the best of us.

I've had guys not want me and gone on to relationships with objectively better looking and more successful (and less pain in the arse-y) guys.
Just the way it goes.

Stop seeing him, stop all contact. Put effort into meeting other guys. Are there any clubs/hobbies/activities you could start in the new year that might have a decent proportion of men?

Why post if you're not interested in what anyone says?

There are no magical words to transform this into the relationship you wish it was.

If you carry on like this you'll isolate yourself from everyone.

Have some self respect and block him. It's a dead end.

Jesus, how many threads have you posted about this man and how many times have you been given the same (good) advice??

On your other thread you said "I'm just going to say I won't be one of many so it's best we just stop speaking.* Why haven't you?

Op you need professional help

I am not surprised you friends are sick of this

You are worth so much more than this. Remember that. Start the new year a fresh and block block block!

I know it's pathetic but I would miss him.
I'm so lonely ..and sometimes any scraps is better than none.
I've got 1 living family member,no kids,3 friends and they are fed up of me.

they are fed up of me.

Yes, because they're sick of hearing about this situation. So get out of it and your friendships will most likely improve.

Are you going to live the rest of your life like this? Waiting til he finds who he wants and completely drops you?

So make 2020 your year to stop seeing/speaking to this bloke and start making more of your life, making more friends, getting to know new people, dating other men.