Boyfriend doesn't listen in bed

[CHARLonodn90]

Been together a fair few months. But this one thing is starting to bother me more and more. He seems to be obsessed with, um, butt stuff! He constantly seems to be prodding the area when we have sex. I hate it and I keep telling him I don't like it but he doesn't seem to listen. He's always asking me for anal... I kept saying no but then I relented and explained that we would have to do it in a position when it wouldn't hurt so much (as a compromise!) but he wasn't happy with that and said he wants to it in a doggy style position. I explained that doing it in that position would hurt like hell and he said it wouldn't and to trust him. How the hell does he know what anal feels like from different positions?! He hasn't done it, lol. I'm wondering if it's jut a case of boys will be boys or should I be concerned? I'm reaching the end of my tether and its getting to the point when we're having sex and he reaches for the area that I have to shout "stop it" It's just starting to make me feel violated.

He’s a sex pest, he’s violating you. Bin him off.

No means no.

Anyone should be able to request something in bed. Everyone should always listen first time if their partner says no.

Unfortunately it sounds like he has no resect for your comfort or boundaries. You've told him you don't like it and he's still pushing the issue - that's not ok. I'd get rid of him tbh.

You've said no, he's not respecting your wishes. You don't have to do anything sexual that you don't want to.

It would put me off him completely to be honest, I wouldn't want to have sex with someone who was pressuring me into something I wasn't comfortable with.

OMG! Do not put up with this awful behaviour! You say no, it means no!

He sounds absolutely horrible.

He's telling you loud and clear that he doesn't really care about you, about what you like, or about your boundaries.

Not a keeper eh?

Tell him to FUCK OFF.

You've told him once. You should only have to tell him once. Tell him to stop pushing, and stop agreeing if you hate it.

Bin him. You have told him, he doesn't care as his needs trump yours.

Not before you get a huge dildo no lube and see how he likes it.

Sex should never hurt just to please somebody else.

Agree he needs to go, what an immature idiot he sounds.

Having had a boyfriend like this who ended up raping me I would dump asap.

You are a fool if you don't run for your life. He has zero respect for you.

Er, no. Get rid of him now. He doesn't understand what constitutes a loving relationship.

Buy a strap on and let him go first, since he’s so sure it won’t be painful

He’s sexually assaulting you.

FFS, where is your self-esteem and self-respect? I despair at how low some peoples' standards are and how many young women have been conditioned to put up with porn-obsessed sex pests as 'boys will be boys'. It's fucking assault, not just 'not listening in bed' when someone repeatedly touches you in places where you have said NO.

He sees you as a fuck toy to carry out his porn fuelled fantasies, not a person who is worthy of respectful treatment. It's anything but 'lol' that he wants to fuck you anally in a way that will hurt you (and, as you say, he'd never ever allow himself to be taken in such a way).

Get rid of him. I fear for my teen daughter, hope she comes out as gay with the way so many young men see women as holes to serve them how they wish.

Porn has totally ruined sex.

Totally agree with Fruitcake.

LTB
is he going to listen to your objections when he wants to try strangulation next?

People who don’t take no for an answer aren’t safe to be around.

Please take care of yourself

He wants to live out his porn fuelled fantasy. You're a series of holes for his pleasure - not a real woman with her own boundaries.

Jesus, dump him. He doesn't care about you, it's all about what he wants.

Exactly, he's very unsafe.

OP's boyfriend: Hey, want to meet up tonight?
OP: Actually, no. This relationship isn't working for me anymore, so I'm ending it right now.
OP's porn-hound boyfriend: Why?
OP: Because I want to. I deserve someone who takes NO for an answer, respects my boundaries, doesn't treat me like a fuck toy for acting out his porn fantasies. Goodbye.

block. Do not date again until you do The Freedom Programme and learn about self-esteem and ditching anyone who doesn't respect your boundaries the very first time round.

Tell him you want to stick a cucumber up his arse in that position first to see if it hurts.

And then dump him.

he sounds vile.. get rid OP. NO means NO.

My ex asked me once if I’d like to try anal. I said ‘Ok, you first though’. He quickly changed his mind and never asked again

I’d look for a new boyfriend if I was you, one who actually gives a shit about your feelings

Hell keep nagging and then all of a. Sudden you'll be having sex and it'll just slip into your anus. He's a sex pest get rid

Tell him if he wants to do it so much, he can go first, with a dildo, see if he likes it.