Who has found true love & partner after 30 and/or divorce?

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I'm 30 and currently separated from husband for 6 months. Completely blindsided when he asked for a separation - we were discussing trying to conceive the week before. Needless to say, I am devastated.

I know I am young and that plenty of women marry after 30 and beyond. Love will always come back around. But right now I need some solidarity from someone who has been in my shoes. Please share your story.

Me! I met my now DH when I was 31 and he was 41. My decree absolut came through the day we moved in together.
He is the absolute love of my life.....this is the life I'm supposed to be leading

I was married at 18 to my first husband, had 2 beautiful DDs, and then realised after 12 years of marriage that I didn't want to be with him anymore and actually, had probably never been in love with him anyway.
Fast forward 2 years, met my DH on t'interweb, engaged and living together 9 months later; then married 2 years after that. Still going strong 15 years later. I was 33 when we met and he was 31. So it can be done, and often is. He's the love of my life

I'm 55 and met an amazing man 8 months ago. You are so young please don't worry!

Yes me!
My exh had an affair and left me and 2 DD’s (primary school aged at time) we were married 12 years.

Few years after separation I met a lovely man, I was 34 at the time. I did do a bit of online dating and had some fun dates, but In the end met DH at the local pub!

We married this year and I am now pregnant :)

I met dh 31 when I was 41!! Been together 7 years and married with a dc.
He is dh number 4..

Last one honestly!

I was 26 not 30 and wasn't married but had ended an 8 year relationship with a man that I had 2 children with. They were also very young at the time (3 and 2 years old) and I was single for 3 years, never thought I'd find someone. My mindset was who on earth would want a woman with 2 young children, 1 of which was a lot of hard work due to developmental issues. But I did, I found love and 3 years on we are still together 😊

I know this isn't what you're looking for OP, but I just wanted to send solidarity, I'm in my early 30s and just separated from my partner of 12 years. Be kind to yourself.

I knew DH at age 29 but didn’t date him till I was 31, we have been together coming up to 22 years.

The one difference on reflection with myself compared to my women friends was I was never that bothered with marrying and having dc. I turned down two marriage proposals from the two guys I dated in my twenties. I’m just really glad I met someone who gets me so well and I him. We both like doing our own thing so as much as we love time together we do things apart.

Me!

With ExH for 23 years and never thought I'd trust a man again, until I met DP. It's not the same - I can't see us living together or getting married, well at least not for many more years, but I trust him because he's never given me reason not to. He's 100% reliable, never lets me down and is the opposite of ExH in nearly every way.

I separated after 20 years of marriage (his choice) 9 months on I fell in love, I never even felt like this with my husband. It happens ... if you want old advice private message, I've tried most the sites!

I met exH when I was 21, married at 24, divorced at 32. Spent a long time trying to do what was expected of me to try to keep everyone happy. Trying to prove I was "normal" as I had undiagnosed ASD.

Marrying DP in the summer when I will be 34. Having finally met someone I actually want to spend the rest of my life with, rather than someone who seems to meet the expected criteria to make my family proud of me. Biggest difference being she's female.

Up until the age of 38 I had been single most of my life and had somewhat become at peace with it and was convinced I'd never meet someone or get married. Decided to join OLD in 2013 for a last ditch effort and met someone, a lovely down to earth 'normal' guy. Been with him ever since and we got married in September. Sadly I don't think kids is going to happen as we've been ttc for a couple of years now and had agreed that my age was against me so we'd not go extraordinary measures (I'm 43 now) and no joy but we're happy with our lot.

It can happen.

met ex at school, married mid 20s, divorced by 30.

not long after divorce, both of us met new partners around the same time (and in the same way!) and have been coupled up ever since. everyone happy.

A girl I know is 33 and has been married and divorced twice and in another relationship again. Bit extreme but you're still very young don't worry

I started dating my DH when I was 31. We got married when I was 34 and had our DD when I was 36.

30 is still young!

WOW!

I just want to say thank you for all your wonderful messages. I woke up to them this morning and read through each one. (I am in the US). I appreciate all of you taking the time to share your story. Kindness to Internet strangers is a real thing and I feel a lot less alone.

I met my DH when I was 36. Both had 2 kids from previous marriages. We've been together 10 years and he's the live of my life.

Split with OH of 7 1/2 years at 33. He did that thing where he was too cowardly to tell me so was just horrible to me for the last few months. I did some OLD, nothing serious, met a few bumpers and have a few stories. I had just turned 35 when I met this fella in the pub. Married him 11 months later. Had our first child at 36. About to have our third at 40. Life has a way of sneaking up on you.

Me! First marriage at 24, met DH2 at 31 (online) and married him 2 years ago when I was 34. I can tell you for sure that things are better the second time round! We've had a tough couple of years since we got married (issues trying to conceive and a couple of miscarriages), but I know for certain that no matter what the future holds I've found my soulmate

I met my DP at 29 and had dd at 32.

Previously I'd been married for 4 years and with him for 16 years total.

We had separated but I hadn't moved out yet when I met DP.

Was with long term boyfriend ten years, on and off. Met DH and asked him out, aged 30. We have been married for 31 years, including two kids.

Best of luck, OP.

Had DC with exDH at 24, he was an arse, left him at 26 and spent many years cautious and single. Met current partner at 39, just friends for a couple of years. We've just got engaged and I've never been happier. He is my best friend and I can't imagine being without him now.

My sister divorced her cheating scumbag of a husband when she was sixty. A couple of years later she met a man with whom she had worked years before. They are now loved up, mostly living in the South of France, with occasional visits back to the UK to see DCs/GDCs.

Divorced at 27, met DP at 31. Getting married in June :)

Thank you all for taking the time out of your day to share your experiences with me. It truly did help and I appreciate it so much! Gave me lots of perspective!