If I tell GP I was raped will they report to social services?

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Sorry to post again but feeling really lost. I think I should take the morning after pill to be on the safe side but terrified of social services being told what happened.

I just called my local SARC and made an appointment but cancelled when I was told they would inform social services if I came in for the appointment. I was going to try and get an emergency gp appointment this afternoon but now worried that the same thing will happen if I go there?

Sorry to hear about the circumstances. Can you not just get the morning after pill from a chemist and not see a GP? I can't see why anyone would report to social services?

Why would they inform social services?

Are you under 16?

You can but the MAP from a chemist, no need to tell anyone why you want it.

Do you have children who saw what happened or were in some way affected by it? Or did they mean they would pass on your details as a vulnerable woman? Is it related to your MH. Sorry, so many questions.

They will report it to someone as it's adult safeguarding. Why don't you want it reporting?

I don't think you need to explain the need for the morning after pill, surely you just say you had unprotected sex.
I am so sorry you have experienced such a terrible thing, I sincerely trust you can get some support.

First I'm sorry to hear that happened to you.

Here's information on where to get emergency contractpetion. There are loads of places, not just the GP:www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/where-can-i-get-emergency-contraception/

There is so much support out there for you. Please access it if you feel able. They won't inform anyone on you, just support you and give you advice if you need it. Please contact Rape Crisis rapecrisis.org.uk/ They won't tell your GP.

Please consider Women's Aid if you are in a relationship where this is a frequent occurance. You do not deserve this, this is not your fault and there is a way out with support: www.womensaid.org.uk/

I depends who it was who raped you OP.
Was it your DP or DH?
Is he the father of your DC?
Does he live with you?
Is he still around?

Hi op I read your thread from yesterday.
I'm glad you're back today, and just wanted to give you my support.

Why would they tell SS? Are you underage or already involved?

I’ve been through the SARC /GP after rape but SS were never involved.

For the morning after just go to the chemist and buy one. You don’t have to say why.

I would advise you so seek help though, you can’t deal with this alone sweetheart

Ok I just saw your past thread. I’m so so sorry, I totally get that feeling of not reporting when you’ve already reported one, I don’t think I would, unless it was a stranger dragged into a bush from the street on actual camera.

BUT you CAN report and you CAN get help as it says nothing about you that rape happens and it’s happened before.

If you don’t feel you can report:

Go to the pharmacist, lie and say you had sex just need the MAP.

Call rape crisis and get help on an emotional level

Stop contacting and allowing the rapist to contact you. He isn’t a friend he is an evil bastard and he will do it again.

Maybe see if you can feel strong enough for your GP. Even if they want to get you support from HV or something because you need help, you’ve done nothing wrong and I can’t see any reason for SS to be concerned about your child’s welfare.

Unfortunately I can't afford to buy it as my ex got me into debt and left me with no money as he was stealing from me.

I was told they have to make a safeguarding referral as my children were in the house when it happened

I'm so sorry you're in this situation and being blocked from support.

It is not an adult Safeguarding. The data protection rules around when you can break confidentiality for an adult with capacity are very strict (basically to save a life). As adults with capacity we have a right to choose what happens to us.

If there are children involved then it depends on if they were affected or could be affected (e.g. If you are in an abusive relationship).

No, he is/was a friend. The children were upstairs sleeping, didn't even know he had come round

Right, ok I was asked the same question but my kids weren’t there.

You’ve done nothing wrong, but you need to go to the SARC or GP get the MAP and it’s fine with SS as you didn’t put the kids in danger, he was a friend you have known for a while, they won’t do anything.

And seriously block him. He will fuck with your head.

Mine also did the “what’s wrong with you, I didn’t do anything, you’re making me feel bad, I just want to hug now, I’ve been STD rested” it’s like they have a fucking script.

I reported as soon as I could get out of the house safely, he didn’t get in my head past that point. Do the same. Don’t let him in.

I don’t understand why they need to refer. You are the victim of a crime. You didn’t act recklessly to put your children in danger. It isn’t like this man is your partner and you’re in a violent relationship.

And I say that as a social worker.

Social services won’t be interested in this, but it’s terrible that this has frightened you away from getting support for yourself.

I just feel so sad and alone

You shouldn't have to give details of why you want it at the GP anyway.

And I'm so sorry. I've survived a lot of rapes and sexual assaults. One continuous period of time by an ex. I didn't want to press charges and go through court to be scrutinised and made to feel like I'm the criminal. What the police did do was allow me to give them all the information I had and my contact details so if someone else comes forward I may be able to help.

he is/was a friend please block him on everything. I had to loose friends and cut anyone out who associated with ex but it was so worth it.
You are not alone.

go to a sexual health clinic, you do not have to disclose the full circumstances and will be prescribed for free. That should be your priority

if you go to boots and see the pharmacist to prescribe it to you it will be free.

I agree then abve, you need to consider your boundaries. Cut this person from your life. Your children could have woken and witnessed what happened so I can see, to a certain degree, where you GP is coming from but the approach isot helpful and it does not solve anything either.

THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. He did what he did, please contact police or rape crisis

I just checked and they are closed this afternoon. It's my own fault for not doing this yesterday but today is my first opportunity

Go to any large chemist. Ask to get the MAP free of charge.

They have to fill in forms but the MAP is free at the point of delivery under contraceptive cover.

They will take you into a side room and ask you a few basic questions.

It's then prescribed free of charge.

www.nhsinform.scot/healthy-living/contraception/emergencies/emergency-contraception

It's up to you how much you tell them.

Where is your nearest pharmacy? Id contact rape crisis for their advice on the prescription/free from pharmacy bit. And id the children in the house ting id what would trigger a ss report I'd simply lie that they weren't.

You can do this.