Do I give this guy a chance? I don't know if Im being mean if not.....

[Leapoffaith00]

As I have been single a while, I have dated lots over the years. I remember how I felt when I first started dating that's why I'm wondering if I should try to understand this guy....
He was married 10 years, split in April.
He hasn't dated at all. So it's very new to him.
Arranged a date and he was very excitable over text, then wanted to chat so I called him. Very excitable.
He then tells me he's been to the hairdressers to tidy up. That's nice, I thought. Then he went and got new trainers and a top. I thought oh wow I wish he hadn't made so much effort, what if we don't hit it off. Then he offered to pick me up. I thought that was kind but I don't know him so thanks but no thanks. Arrived at the date, he got me a cake. I thought it was kind. I went to buy a drink he shouted really loud no you won't. He then kept telling me how excited he was and he's glad I'm having a nice time (I can't remember saying I was but I'm glad he thought I was). He then said are you ok to message in work (I hadn't replied to a message as I was busy). I explained I was busy. He then said he keeps checking his phone to see if i had text, then thought damn when i hadn't. He then asked if I'd like to go on a 2nd date. I was put on the spot so agreed. After the date, by the time I got in my car he had sent a text saying how lovely the date was. Then again when I got home. I woke up in the morning and he'd liked 31 of my pics and requested to follow me on social media. Then sent a text saying he had done that. A day later asked me if my friend at work had asked about him (He wanted to know if I'd mentioned to anyone I was going on a date, I had, my friend in work) and had I told anyone else about him. Then he sent me a gym pic all sweaty asking if I still thought he was attractive. Another selfie today. Also another message saying a week ago we started chatting, a week ago when you came across my pic and thought 'hello' (I hadn't said that, I actually just swiped because he looked quite pleasant). Then another text asking if anyone had asked where we are going on our next date? I told him my mum was babysitting and he then said, I bet you had lots of questions asked. I feel a little overwhelmed by it. I think he is genuine and a nice guy but I feel overwhelmed. Am I being mean by think he is getting on my nerves?

Sounds like he's massively on the rebound. He's well over excited, it's not normal. Sounds like me after I ended my marriage. Two months later and I was overwhelmed at how someone else could be so interested in me etc. This is him.

Way too needy for me. I'd be gone

Oh wow this sounds so like a guy I went on a couple of dates with!
He would ring and text me at work just to say hi, and constantly want me to commit to dates for the next months.
On date 2 he informed me he had bought a cd for us to ‘make love to’ 🤮 so it would be our song 🙈 and questioning how far up on my prototype list he was etc etc.
I couldn’t get away quick enough and when told him he was just way too full on he was hysterical, telling me I was stuck up my own arse and he would have loved me (and my dd that he had never met??) more than anyone else.
Apparently I’d live to regret it but I really haven’t 😂

Prototype=priority!!

Mad as a box of frogs is what I'd be thinking (as I ran...)!

Now I can be a pretty full on texter. My OH and I have texted a lot from the start, it would be way too much for some people. I also stayed over at his house after our first date.
Bearing all of that in mind, I still think your guy is far too full on! He reminds me of a chap I was briefly involved in when I was in my early twenties. He wrote our initials with a heart emoji after every Facebook status, even if it wasn't linked in any way. Texted me daily saying "it's been x days since I first saw your photo/you added me on fb/you first texted me". We had maybe three dates before I realised how stifling he was being, and ended it.

Trust your instincts, TELL him he's being too full on!

Oh Christ just read the update about him trying to work out where you work etc - block block BLOCK! This is SO far from normal. If he's not a complete creepy stalker type, at very best he's just way too intense, trying to create a relationship from nothing.

Any update OP? Have you binned him?

Are you still going to the cinema with him @Leapoffaith00?

I have told him that he appears to be a lovely guy but I can't see it going anyway between us. I wished him luck. He was ok with it. I felt awful but it's better to be upfront.

Bless, i did get a bit stressed reading the post... its a bit too early on i guess, proceed with caution. he is way too over excited but i guess that in itself shouldnt be a write off. See how it progresses and tell him when u feel he is being ott. !