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BF new girlfriend pregnant

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 13:26

I need someone to tell me I’m not being a normal mess, I’m 8weeks pregnant and my BF (male) has just told me his new girlfriend I mean they have only been together 2.5 weeks has told him he is going to be a daddy.
From day 1 I’ve had her pegged as an attention seeker and if there is no drama she isn’t happy kinda person. It’s complicated to say the least and it’s only been 2 weeks. I just have a strong gut instinct she is lying but somehow manipulating him to lie too maby. So the first time they had sex was 2 weeks ago. 3 days ago he told her I was pregnant as I’m suffering with hypermese and she has got 2 kids thought she might have some advice, then the next day he started getting all broody which she pick up on and asked him and he said one day he would love to have a baby of his own. Well the next morning she turns up at his house claiming she suddenly has morning sickness and craving milkshakes and tells him she is pregnant and he is goi to be a dad.
Now is it just me or dose it all seem like Bullshit ? I would love him to find the one settle and have a family but I really don’t think she is it.

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 13:28

Totally realised that it says BF I mean my Best Friend haha

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MrsMaiselsMuff · 12/11/2019 13:29

Is this your ex or do you mean best friend? Where is the father of your baby?

None of it makes much sense.

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 13:34

Best friend me and my partner are together and happy.

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Mopmum35 · 12/11/2019 13:35

she is a bull shitter there is no way you would find out that soon!

ScatteredMama82 · 12/11/2019 13:36

She can't possibly know she is pg if they only had sex 2 weeks ago! Load of nonsense. Educate him on ovulation cycles etc and pregnancy test sensitivity before he falls for this bollocks.

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 13:37

That’s what I think and TMI but she told him she was on her period on the 29th Oct so surely if she was then she wouldn’t even have ovulated yet ?

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StrictlyNameChangin · 12/11/2019 13:37

Sounds like BS but stay well out of it.

AwkwardFucker · 12/11/2019 13:37

Are you all 16?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 12/11/2019 13:38

Sounds like your BS instinct is strong...

Yup. I can total drama llama too.

Your BF is about to enter the thunderdome of BS... he's going to need you!

PS: Congrats on your pregnancy.

ILoveYou3000 · 12/11/2019 13:38

@Mopmum35 it is clearly bullshit but it could happen. Basic biology. Period 4 weeks ago, ovulation 2 weeks ago when they first had sex, missed period now (2.5 weeks later).

So entirely possible, but seems very unlikely given the immediate arrival of morning sickness and cravings upon being told you're pregnant.

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 13:39

I have tried to explain it all to him but he is so broody he just won’t listen and I don’t want to push him and cause issues between us because he is my bestie. I just don’t want her to continue this lie then make out she lost the baby and leave him broken

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userxx · 12/11/2019 13:43

Are you all 16?

This

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 13:45

No we’re not 16 not sure there is need for that he is 36 but dose not have luck with woman at all and I’m late 20’s concerned about best mate

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ILoveYou3000 · 12/11/2019 13:46

@ScatteredMama82 it's entirely possible to know now if they had sex two weeks ago.

floodypuddle · 12/11/2019 13:48

Sounds highly unlikely to me. Is there any chance she was already pregnant?

Whatsnewpussyhat · 12/11/2019 13:52

She saw him coming didn't she. Quite literally.
He chose to have unprotected sex with this woman he'd only just met.
She might be pg. Or she's most likely stringing the fool on.

Celebelly · 12/11/2019 13:52

I mean it's technically possible. I got my first positive at 11 days post-ovulation. But it sounds very dodgy and more likely she's being a Billy Bullshitter for attention. Wait for a few weeks for the 'miscarriage' to happen...

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 13:52

I know that it possible I found out at 9DPO but the whole situation just seems like she is lying especially with her last period starting only 14 days ago and she told him 2 days ago I guess it could of been implantation bleeding but she has to be stuck in drama. Her and her x only seperated 4 weeks ago another friend who she claimed was going to kill himself so she had to keep in contact with him, then he got abusive so she blocked him but her phone rebooted and unblocked him and wouldn’t let her block him for another 72 hours ? First thing she did when she found out was go to the x’s house to tell him and warn him he was stressing the baby and if she lost it it was his fault

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Sohololopopo · 12/11/2019 13:53

Congrats OP! You need to not get stressed about people like this.. Also not to be a dick but it’s does not dose!

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 13:55

That’s what I think she will do wait untill her next period and claim she is misscarrying for the attention I just know it will destroy him he has wanted a baby for as long as I have known him. And according to him they did use protection she is apparently on the implant so she said which is what makes it seem more unlikely

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 13:57

Haha sorry dyslexic (managed to spell that at least 😜)
I’m trying to not stress but he is getting way ahead of himself with excitement Liturally buying baby clothes already
He is going on her word only not seen a test or anything

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diddl · 12/11/2019 14:03

Good grief what is wrong with the guy?

Someone he barely knows might be pregnant & he thinks it's great?

Drum2018 · 12/11/2019 14:03

If she was on her period on 29 October then It's highly unlikely she's pregnant and certainly not pregnant enough to know about it. Maybe she'll shag him senseless now so she will be pregnant by next month though.

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 14:09

Question is what do I do he clearly dosent want to hear it so do I pretend to be happy and wait it out then be his shoulder to cry on when she says the baby is gone knowing in my heart there never was one ? I suppose in his head he will still have lost a baby even if it didn’t exsist right? I’ve already given him the be careful for the first 12 weeks don’t go buying stuff chat in the hope he calms down a bit

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raspberryk · 12/11/2019 14:21

This is ridiculous, has an implant, 2 weeks ago was on her period and now she is pregnant. She is either bullshitting for drama, or she was already pregnant ... red flags either way!

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