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BF new girlfriend pregnant

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 13:26

I need someone to tell me I’m not being a normal mess, I’m 8weeks pregnant and my BF (male) has just told me his new girlfriend I mean they have only been together 2.5 weeks has told him he is going to be a daddy.
From day 1 I’ve had her pegged as an attention seeker and if there is no drama she isn’t happy kinda person. It’s complicated to say the least and it’s only been 2 weeks. I just have a strong gut instinct she is lying but somehow manipulating him to lie too maby. So the first time they had sex was 2 weeks ago. 3 days ago he told her I was pregnant as I’m suffering with hypermese and she has got 2 kids thought she might have some advice, then the next day he started getting all broody which she pick up on and asked him and he said one day he would love to have a baby of his own. Well the next morning she turns up at his house claiming she suddenly has morning sickness and craving milkshakes and tells him she is pregnant and he is goi to be a dad.
Now is it just me or dose it all seem like Bullshit ? I would love him to find the one settle and have a family but I really don’t think she is it.

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Lunafortheloveogod · 12/11/2019 16:04

He’s 36 and he doesn’t understand the basics of pregnancy, broken bones or contraception.. how the fuck has he made it this far.

She’s either not pregnant, lying about dates (Hence the rushing to tell her ex) subsequently lying about the implant.. he’d be able to feel it in her arm btw.. or as batshit as they come and believes it all herself.

Give him a wake up call, be serious explain that if her implantation bleeding was immediate or lasted a week n was a period it’s a period. That you cannot be 2.5weeks pregnant as you only actually ovulate on week 2.. so unless you’re ttc you find out between 4-6weeks. That falling pregnant on the implant is really rare.. no user error or funny tummy’s affect it.. and that she should be getting checked over to have it removed if she’s magically peed on a clear blue that he bought. No letting her buy a fake test or take it at her mates.

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 16:04

They have known each other for over a year I suppose they admitted they like each other 2.5 weeks ago and kinda dove straight in
He is very insecure his last girlfriend of 7 years cheated on him repeatedly and wore him down a lot he is depressed but working to improve his life think he just can’t get a grip of life and how things work tbh

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blahblahblahblahhh · 12/11/2019 16:22

Christ poor bloke she is a fruit loop.
Either she was already pregnant by someone else or she ain't pregnant - what a crazy lady!
Women like her give the rest of us normals a bad rep!

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 16:30

Now according to him she took a test infront of him yesterday and it was positive and apparently can’t be the x’s as he had the snip and her period only lasted a day he is suddenly changing his story and I know he didn’t see her yesterday
So I don’t know what’s going on in his head maby desperation

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hellsbellsmelons · 12/11/2019 16:41

It's a shame that he is colluding in her lies already.
He sounds vulnerable and she is taking full advantage.
But as a 36 YO there is not much more you can do for him.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 12/11/2019 16:42

they have only been together 2.5 weeks

And he's 'so in love with her'

Sorry, but they both sound like fruit loops.

Step away from the madness and focus on yourself. They will implode at some point.

LolaSmiles · 12/11/2019 16:50

It's tricky because almost everyone on this thread can see what a disaster this will be, but if he is intent on believing it then the more people tell him the obvious, the more likely it is that he'll concoct some version where they're star crossed lovers and their friends don't like his 'partner' for no reason and so on.
Telling him the truth could drive him further into this ridiculous excuse of a relationship.

I think all you can do is calmly say something like "it's highly unlikely she is pregnant and it's yours because of dates, contraception etc, I'm worried things are moving too quickly and you're such a nice guy that I think you're risking being hurt again. I'm here when you need me though' and then take a step back. At some point the fall will happen and he'll need his friends around him and feel confident he can go to them without "we told you so" fears.

You sound like a great friend.

TheHootiestOwl · 12/11/2019 16:51

She a complete drama llama isn’t she. The broken bones thing is just bullshit. And he’s happy feeding it. They’re both as had as each other.

TheHootiestOwl · 12/11/2019 16:51

*bad.

Elieza · 12/11/2019 16:52

She’s either pregnant by her ex and trying to pass it off as his, or isn’t pregnant at all but hoping to be in the next few weeks as they prob won’t bother with condoms now as “no need as I’m already pregnant “
Either way not good. Shame they are both fruit loops.

GodammitGreg · 12/11/2019 16:52

All you can do is be there for him when it all goes tits up.

OurChristmasMiracle · 12/11/2019 16:54

If she is pregnant unless they were sleeping with each other before the last 2.5 weeks he isn’t the dad

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 17:08

We’re going to have a open honest heart to heart later but I think he is intent on living in some fairy tale bollox where this all works out
I think I’m going to have to step back I can’t do with the drama I would much rather a peaceful life I would hate to lose him as my bestie but I can’t be fake and act like this is ok when it really isn’t
But will see what he has to say
Guess only time will tell now and I’ll be there to pick him up
Never know could be wrong she could be some sort of goddess with magical powers of healing and looking into the future

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TheHootiestOwl · 12/11/2019 17:27

He is not in love with her after two weeks, for goodness sake.

justthecat · 12/11/2019 17:37

He needs to buy a test, watch her go in bathroom and do test, come out with same test

FlamingoAndJohn · 12/11/2019 18:25

He needs to buy a test, watch her go in bathroom and do test, come out with same test

Exactly that.
My left tit is she pregnant. As said previously she will claim her next period to be a miscarriage.

Elieza · 12/11/2019 18:59

Do you get tests nowadays that tell you how many weeks gone you are? If so get one and when it shows she’s 8 weeks gone or whatever the penny will drop it ain’t his.

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Mumof2and3angles · 12/11/2019 19:31

Most test only go up to like 3+ I think not sure but if there is a scan he will know

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BercowsPoliticalPumpkin · 12/11/2019 20:20

My last period was the same day as hers. I have short cycles and my next one is due in a week so no way she'd get a positive test now. She'd only have ovulated about 3 days ago ffs.

If this is real then step away. Your friend is an idiot to be so gullible at his age and you don't need the drama when you need your energies for yourself.

Blippolbblopp · 13/11/2019 11:39

If this was my friend telling me this my first thought would be "bullshit", but she could well be pregnant with his baby

In 2016 i fell pregnant with my DS. I had had sex once that month, on the 22nd March and I had a positive pregnancy test by the 4th April. It had only been 13 days since id had sex

I only took the test because i felt so awful and wanted to rule pregnancy out. And weirdly enough even though i knew i was pregnant with DD i didnt get a positive till nearly 6 weeks.

Halestorm · 13/11/2019 12:19

Step away from it all. She's a nutcase and he's deluded and sometimes you can't save deluded idiots from themselves. All you can do is be there when he finally see what a nutter she is.

BlackAudi · 13/11/2019 12:34

Just to be clear - it is possible to be pregnant after 2 weeks as it happened to me. We were being doubly careful but somehow it magically happened. It's rare, the odds are low but it's not impossible..... She's either extremely in tune with her body to notice very very early changes, had a 'just to make sure' pregnancy test at the doctors on day 14 after conception for some other reason (as I did) or she was actively trying and had sex within her fertile window then tested at earliest opportunity (known as 'the 2 week wait').

I nearly collapsed in shock when they told me I was pregnant. As I said, we were doubly careful.

MustardScreams · 13/11/2019 12:37

@BlackAudi her period started 2 weeks ago so there is no way she is pregnant with op’s friend.

BlackAudi · 13/11/2019 12:39

@MustardScreams Ahh no, almost certainly no chance, you're right there. I must've missed that bit. Although I suppose at a stretch, she could be irregular but even less likely to be the case.

Sounds like she needs help!

AnyFucker · 13/11/2019 12:44

Sounds like you all need to go back to school and relearn some basic human physiology