Had a bad date and a friend said...

[User2953]

‘Not all men are bad, the problem is it will be hard for you to find a good one now at your age.’

I feel so sad hearing that. Almost like I may as well give up. I’m 35 on Monday so I was already feeling down about dating. Not sure why I’m posting, I feel really down.

Nonsense! I know plenty of people who let their perfect match in their late 30s and 40s. Ignore your "friend".

Fuck her.

I met a good one at 36 OP.

On my 35th bd I cried as I really felt my life wasn’t where I wanted it to be.

I feel like there’s some truth in it though. She married years ago in her twenties. There’s so many weirdos around.

I met the man of my dreams at 36.

What an awful thing to say.

I met dh at 40. My mam met her long time partner at 57 and they were together until she died last year at 87.

Plus I know lots of women who've met their partners later in life.

She's talking rubbish.

Absolute rubbish. Ignore her

That would be true if you were 50. I would sell my granny to be 35 again in the dating world. It's a numbers game, so keep in there, OP. You only need to get it right once.

Is there truth in it being harder though

I’m older, more people are taken etc

What utter crap.

My mum met her now husband when she was 50, he’s quite possibly the nicest man she could have ever met!

There's lots of married weirdos about too.

I think it's easier to date as you get older, people have generally already had a long term relationship so they have some measure of how to act. If they don't, then they wouldn't have had at 25 either.

At 35 I think she's talking rubbish and it was a hurtful and unnecessary thing to say.

I'm 45 and I do feel a bit that way. All the men my age specify their ideal age range as 25-40. If I wanted to date a 60 year old I'd have my pick

There was a link posted on here a couple of years back showing how much harder it gets for women as they get older. It was depressing.

You're not there yet though so get out and enjoy yourself. I think 35 is peak dating age!

I think your 30s are a great time to meet someone because you've more than likely "kissed a few frogs" and learnt more about what you do and don't want. You also know yourself so much better and hopefully by their 30s/40s, most men have grown out of that "lad" stage and be more mature (I said hopefully!)

Lots of people I know, including myself, have met their good long term partners in their 30s and alot of them had long term relationships/marriage beforehand that went sour and went on to meet someone very compatible. Dating in your 30s nowadays isn't like it was for previous generations.

You just have to sieve out the weirdos ones who are clearly not for you or just out for a shag.

What rubbish. I know people who have met their long term partners in their forties or fifties even and are not only happy but enviably romantic and blissed out together. You'll meet the right person when you are being completely yourself in your happiest most energetic form.

She is talking s.h.i.t

You're so far from past it and your 'mate' is talking shite!

Thanks. I do feel a little better reading these.

It was like a kick to the stomach when she said it, especially as she’s married.

What absolute rubbish, is your friend a bit of a bitch? I met my OH when I was 35, and had dated a few lovely men before him (I was online dating) yes, there are a lot of arseholes out there, but most of them are already married to Mumsnetters 😉

I didn’t meet my husband until I was 38, we have been married for 15 years now . When the time is right it will happen .
Fuck what other people say 😉

She can be a bit show off about her life but I think it’s more that she’s never done online dating.

OP, I am mid twenties. Trust me, you aren't missing out on anything by not being a bit younger. Most people in my age range are looking for something 'casual' (i.e. unsolicited dick pics and no attempt at dating whatsoever!). Either that or they're still quite immature and only interested in playing the numbers game.
Age is definitely on your side if you are looking for something meaningful.
Good luck!

Well I think it is true. It is hard to find a good man.

I met my “good one” at 35.

But I’d rather be single for ever than just make do with a guy who is not a “good one”.

I have met the love of my life at 43

I don't think I would've been ready for him before.
I'm much stronger now with better self esteem and so it works well

Take no notice of your friend, not helpful at all

@User2953 but some of the men who are “taken” are utterly shit.
Just because she married in her 20’s doesn’t mean she got a good one.
I would honestly ditch her, she is a bitch.

Nah, I was with a right dickhead in my 20s.

I know lots of people who met their life partners after 40 who are blissfully happy now.