Had a bad date and a friend said...

[User2953]

‘Not all men are bad, the problem is it will be hard for you to find a good one now at your age.’

I feel so sad hearing that. Almost like I may as well give up. I’m 35 on Monday so I was already feeling down about dating. Not sure why I’m posting, I feel really down.

She married years ago in her twenties.

Fk knows what he'd husband could be up to, you wouldn't know (nor would she).

It's often the smug patronising types that have (below the surface) totally dysfunctional relationships.

You can meet someone at any age. You just need to have v good bullshit detector and boundaries.

*her husband.

You can meet anyone at any age if that's your priority.

"I met my husband when I was 50. Your friend is talking rubbish."

Ah, it's rubbish because of one example. I see!
The friend said it's harder, not impossible. None of the examples here prove the friend wrong.

I met my lovely husband when I was 32 and was divorced with 3 children. My sister met her partner even later. Don't give up.

"You can meet anyone at any age if that's your priority."

It's harder though.
When you're 90 there won't be many men your age around and you might not find it easy to get out.

What a bitch. You’re in your prime!!!

She's not your friend shes's a frenemy.

Well, who needs enemies!!

I am inclined to disagree with her. I'm about your age (33) and have my profiles set for 30-45 year old men. While I haven't quite met the right one yet for me, and have come across plenty of 'characters', I am meeting plenty of nice guys, most of whom seem genuine.

Rightly or wrongly, I use education and professional jobs as a criterion (not judging other men, it's just I can't meet every bloke on Bumble and through experience, this seems to be a way to find those I have more in common with). I am finding that a lot of professional guys are only just starting to settle down in their mid to late 30s as they have dedicated their 20s and early 30s to their careers. Others have a marriage behind them but are keen to find something lasting.

Therefore your friend is talking balls, there are good men out there looking for a serious relationship who have a lot to offer. Keep on keeping on!

30-43**

Definitely not the case.

3 good friends met great men in their late 30's.

1 had 2 children.

The other two who opted not to have a family, are blissfully happy and travel so much.

What I will say is that they had met and married within 2 years.

They knew they had met the one.

All lovely men too.

If you are open to meeting someone, I believe it can happen at any age. 💐

Utter bullshit. 46 before finding my perfect match. I think as we age, we're more mature in our choices so I think pure MORE likely to find a better match with advancing age.

I married in my early 20s, it was over when I was 32. Really didn't think I'd find a good one as I met quite a few dickheads after my divorce.
I met my DP just before I turned 34 and he's wonderful. He's 5yrs younger which was something I wasn't looking for!

It's harder if you're not prepared to accept someone with children (I wasn't). You just need to stick with what you actually want in a partner and don't deviate from it. I gave people a chance who didn't 100% match my requirements and I regretted it in the end.

She sounds like a bitch. I hope you told her you didn’t appreciate her comment.

I guess it depends on your ultimate goals- if it’s to meet and have a large family then it might get tricky and stressful at 35 due to having less time to meet, get to know each other and have children.

If it’s because you just want a long term partner then you have plenty of time.

However, I do believe it is more difficult as in your 30s you are more self assured, know what you want etc etc

Has any of this helped op?

It's harder though.
When you're 90 there won't be many men your age around and you might not find it easy to get out.

Op is not quite 90 (!) but for the sake of argument my 94 yr old grandmother has had admirers who send her gifts etc. It only takes one.

"When you're 90 there won't be many men your age around and you might not find it easy to get out."

Snort. Or dead.

Oh come on OP she's chatting shit isn't she you are hardly old. Seems a spiteful thing to say as though she enjoys putting you down though, i'd have called her out. That might be her one day after all!

Ignore her OP, of course dating is hard, of course there are weirdos, no less than any other time in life though, you just have to be proactive to put yourself in situations to meet people. In your 30's is young!

I met the nicest man I have ever met (now DP) when I was 40 so she's talking nonsense- was in toxic relationship for years, then single for a lot of years too- he was 100% worth the wait- we were friends for 18months too before making a move- your friend is talking rubbish